People who apologise by text message suck

[hallowedink]

I have a friend who always does this, and it really pisses me off. I always make an effort to apologise to people in person, no matter how uncomfortable it makes me feel, because I owe it to them if I've wronged them. (I do it if I haven't was well, but that's just because I "apologise compulsively" (says my doctor, anyway).)

It just bugs me that other people don't feel the need to extend people the same courtesy.

[NailFlower]

eh, people are different. Some people communicate better by text, some by phone, some in person. I would take the apology...but what concerns me is that your friend 'always' does this...what kind of friend is habitually doings to you that they have to apologize for? that seems weird to me.

[Anna]

Have you talked to her about this concern? That might be one way of handling it. Some people do do better by text. I try to apologize in person or by phone, but sometimes the other person does not pick up the phone, which kind of sucks, happened recently with a friend I lost. So, it is what it is.

I do find forgiving people for stuff to an extent to be beneficial to ones own happiness however. You could call or text her back, thank her for the apology, and state that you prefer verbal apologies, and ask her if that's possible for her.

Anna