OpalLids Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Maybe this belongs to the depressions-section, but I guess something like this happens to people who struggle with other mental illnesses to.. I noticed there's another thread about people who make fun of MIs in general, but I thought that's something different. Last time when i was admitted to a psych ward, I could barely function at all, amd was hardly able to talk. There was a guy (I think it was another patient's brother) who always came into my room and questioned me about all kinds of things. I didn't answer, so he came in with a guitar and started playing something. I wopuld have prefered to be alone, but I thought maybe hes just trying to be nice.When I still didn't react he finally left. Later he returned, running into my room, crying "Fire! Fire!° and trying to get me out of bed. I was not able to yell at him, but decided to do so if I would ever see him again when I was better. I think that's one of the worst things anyone can do to you in such a state. It's been almost 6 months that this has happened, but It's still bugging me. I wonder if something like this has ever happened to you too and how you reacted.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GonnaLaugh Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Guitarman just sounds like an asshole. I know it's hard not to take it personally, but don't take it personally. He should have realized he's in a hospital and he should be quiet and not disrupt people. Sounds like he went way, way over the line. I usually always have some bit of depression, and at various times have been very depressed. Usually I think nobody but me realizes that's what's wrong with me or that's why I behave the way I do or did. I remember one time I was depressed, and I answered the phone at home, and the caller thought it was my friend, and she couldn't get over the tone and manner of speaking, and she's like, "What's wrong with you, do you have a cold?" And I had to explain she had the wrong person and it was just me. Since then I have been rather fascinated by the fact that people can sound depressed in their manner of speaking, and that a trained mental health expert can pick up on that, or even some really savvy person can... but most people are just clueless and judgmental. It sucks to have to be judged as somehow lesser than... So I know what you mean. Have you talked it over with a counselor, how that guy made you feel? It might be a good idea. -- MK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breezy Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 That's horrible; I'm sorry that happened to you. Guests are usually not allowed to visit patients other than their friend, loved one, etc, ESPECIALLY not in the patient's room. One, for the safety of the guest. Guitarman could have been messing with someone who could have easily attacked him. Second, because you're there to heal! Not be taunted. Where were the nurses? Were you near a call button? He could have been banned from the visiting the unit, or very supervised upon further visits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OpalLids Posted November 23, 2011 Author Share Posted November 23, 2011 Thank you for your nice comments.. Well, I didn't want to call a nurse. When I'm really depressed I feel like I'm a burden to everyone, and don't want to get any attention. It makes me fell uncomfortable and guilty. In this situation esepcially, because the nurses were always a little stressed out. @GonnaLaugh: Yes, I even notice this tone myself, but can't change it. Also the first weeks the nurses told me that I had no facial expression whatsoever. It came back when the meds started to kick in.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Every time I've been in the psych ward, they allowed visitors only on weekends. Visitors could only go in the common rooms (TV room and cafeteria). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OpalLids Posted November 23, 2011 Author Share Posted November 23, 2011 I would have liked that better. We were allowed to have visitors every day in between the treatments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breezy Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Thank you for your nice comments.. Well, I didn't want to call a nurse. When I'm really depressed I feel like I'm a burden to everyone, and don't want to get any attention. It makes me fell uncomfortable and guilty. In this situation esepcially, because the nurses were always a little stressed out. Nope, I completely understand what you mean. I just thought I'd ask Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GonnaLaugh Posted November 24, 2011 Share Posted November 24, 2011 [@GonnaLaugh: Yes, I even notice this tone myself, but can't change it. Also the first weeks the nurses told me that I had no facial expression whatsoever. It came back when the meds started to kick in..] yes, i understand it's something you/we can't control. I'm glad you got your facial expressions back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DamselODistress Posted November 24, 2011 Share Posted November 24, 2011 Both hospitals I've been in had visiting every day, but at very specific times. One was 5-7pm, the other was 7-9pm. Aside from one violent patient exploding and all of us including visitors being herded to the dining area so he could be taken care of(I will never, never ever get that day out of my head), visits were all done in the common room. And the visitors had to have passwords to get in to see us...hee! I was a smartass and used a French curse because I knew my mom would understand and hate it. No one ever said a suicidal girl couldn't have her little amusements... I really want to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. You said he was there to visit his brother, is there a chance his brother also fights depression? Maybe it's how he jollies his brother up enough to be able to talk? Maybe he thought you were cute? Yelling 'fire' was a jerk thing to do, though.. *sigh* And it really kinda squicks me about how he was coming into your room. Even other patients weren't allowed into my room unless it was my roommate. And know what? You're not a burden, ever. I guarantee it. I hope the depression has gotten easier to handle with the meds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OpalLids Posted November 24, 2011 Author Share Posted November 24, 2011 @breezy: I'm sorry if my reply sounded a bit bitchy, but as English isn't my native language, I can't always tell how I come across.. The visiting arrangement at the hospital where I was, were not very good for me. For instance really anyone who knew my first name (or even just my nickname) could've just walked in on me. My "friends" (-this sounds mean, but I don't like them enough as to call them friends-) just came by after shopping and asked for me at the nurses' office. I was very uncomfortable with them being there and made up a stupid excuse to get rid of them. @DamselODistress: Yes, at first I also thought that he was just sincerely trying to cheer me up. Maybe I was too sensitive at that time to appreciate the effort.. I haven't been feeling so good lately, but thank you all for showing so much concern. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DamselODistress Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 Can I just say, your English is a lot better than a friend of mine, who is a US native and somehow managed to major in English? I don't like the lack of security that that visiting set-up had. Only a first name or nickname? Any kind of person could walk in off the street! I think I'd write a letter to the administrator suggesting they rethink that. I hope he was trying to cheer you up. His methods were a little odd, but if he was trying it's sweet that he wanted to. I'm sorry that you're not feeling so well, I hope the boards can offer the support you need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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