nothingness Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 How about a Personals Section? I'd like to meet someone with similar issues to cope with and the occasional roll-in-the-hay! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rowan77 Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 This is a site for offering and receiving support, encouragement and assistance in relation to living with MI. I personally don't want to meet someone for "the occasional roll-in-the-hay". If I did I would join a dating site. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LunaRufina Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 No. I think this is a really bad idea. While people have met and do at times develop personal relationships through the board [myself included], we are not a dating service nor does the board ever strive to be one. Doing so creates all kinds of problems, and I, personally am not prepared to be a part of something like that. Should it be brought up for serious discussion, I would submit a HEARTY "no". Sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olga Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 We have never encouraged CB members to hook up, for a number of reasons. Personal ads here could attract predators who could hurt and abuse our members. Also, one of the key aspects of this place is anonymity. It is very important to a lot of us to keep our true identities secret. If two members got together and then the relationship ended badly, there could be all sorts of posts on the board with real names, addresses, etc. Finally, we don't see Crazyboards as a dating service. There are plenty of them out on the internet, for kinky folks, Christians, Jews, farmers, etc. We are here to provide support and information for mentally ill people, and most of us feel pretty strongly that we want to keep our mission at the forefront. I know that you intended your post to be light and humorous, but we have many women here who have been abused and victimized by men, so we are doubly protective of them and want them to feel safe here. As the previous poster said, if you want to meet someone, go to a dating site. olga Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpladybug Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 A roll in the hay sounds very itchy and scratchy. ha ha I guess my perspective has changed over time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nothingness Posted November 25, 2011 Author Share Posted November 25, 2011 I guess ya'll are right! Just a random idea Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 There are 'dating with MI' sites that exist already. I know that if I didn't feel so safe here, I would be gone in a heartbeat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted November 25, 2011 Share Posted November 25, 2011 This is an "over my dead body" type issue. A lot of people here are not emotionally stable enough to have healthy relationships at all. The last thing we want to do is encourage people to avoid dealing with their own shit by getting involved in a dysfunctional relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nothingness Posted November 25, 2011 Author Share Posted November 25, 2011 I think what I'm really looking for is other local people to talk to. Being a loner I have no one to talk too. I tried the group thing, but that was awful! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damik Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 If you want to find somebody locally why don't you look into your local NAMI? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hooker Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 I like the idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
december_brigette Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 I want to say something silly like "Yeah! a CB dating service. But guess what? It'll cost you $1000 US per month." Unfortunately even if there was a price put on it...there would be the manic money spenders. db Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Vapourware Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 CB is a support site, primarily, where people talk about their issues. There's chat if you feel lonely and want someone to chat to, and locally, there might be various support groups in your area. In my area, at least, there are formal and informal groups for people with mental health issues. I think a google of "<name of your area> mental health support group" would be a good start. For dating purposes - I agree with the others, there are already websites out there for people with mental health issues to connect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scatty Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 There used to be a site called something like "No Longer Lonely" for people with MI. I'm actually afraid to see if it still exists! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
netsavy006 Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 There used to be a site called something like "No Longer Lonely" for people with MI. I'm actually afraid to see if it still exists! Googled it. Still exists. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Please don't let this become a dating site. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
netsavy006 Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 I don't want this site to become a dating site. As written by scatty, there is a site that exists for dating people w/ mental illness. Just google the quoted text on scatty's post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nothingness Posted November 26, 2011 Author Share Posted November 26, 2011 There used to be a site called something like "No Longer Lonely" for people with MI. I'm actually afraid to see if it still exists! Yep! I put an ad yesterday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gearhead Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Oh, my God, a terrible idea in the long tradition of the blind leading the blind terrible ideas. We need our anonymity and we need to protect ourselves from predators. And I just don't think I can cope with a CrazyBabies section, when the inevitable preganancies start happening... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enlightened_plutonian Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 I am another who thinks that this would be a really bad idea. Having anonymity is really important to me. If CB ever turned into a dating site I would leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pomme de guerre Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 I definitely would like to keep my anonymity. I certainly don't begrudge others their choice in the matter but I would feel significantly less safe if this turned into a dating site. Scummy people like to prey on people who are mentally ill. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nothingness Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 I just asked about having a personals section. I didn't want to turn this into a dating website! Geez people lighten up! Personally, I think I could cope better if I had a friend with the same issues who'd understand? Being a loner is a nightmare! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olga Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Nothingness is right---he accepted our explanation as to why we can't have a personals section. I don't want him to feel that we're beating up on him for making a suggestion, so I'm going to lock this thread. olga Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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