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Even if they're my own relatives, it feels like it throws me through a loop and like my personal space is being invaded. We just hired a couple guys to cut the lawn and I'm hiding out in the den. When I had to get up to go the other room I actually stooped so I wouldn't pass by the window.

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I hate having company over too. I am always scared of the lawn guys when they are outside. I am trying to go on one outing a week with my family members, but I try to avoid actually letting them in my home. When we had workmen in here years ago, I was in a constant panic. I might appear rude, but I would rather that than be uncomfortable in my own house!

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I'm not a fan of having visitors either. I get nervous about what the other person thinks about my living space.

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I cannot stand having people in my house. I hide in my bedroom whenever a neighbor comes to the door and my husband answers it. Some holidays when my in-laws have "dropped by," I have hidden in the bedroom with a "migraine" the whole time. I can't even stand for my children to have their neighbor friends over. It's really sad. I hate it. I can't stand to go out, either, so that sucks, too. My family does a lot without me, which is probably the biggest heartbreak of my life right now.

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Thanks for posting this! I do this too. When someone, even a neighbor, comes to the door, I hide.

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I can't stand having people in the house. About twice a year we have very close friends over for dinner, and I have to have about a month's warning so I can plan every detail of how it might go in my mind so that I don't lose it completely.

I just feel as if the whole world is one big funhouse mirror with a horrible rave-worthy sound system, and I need my home to be quiet and empty and predictable.

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I generally cannot stand having people over. uninvited drop-bys piss me off and throw me out of whack. I cannot stand that.

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The door here doesn't get answered unless we've ordered food. Generally just one friend is allowed over, and most days even she is pushing it. I detest having people over!

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I do this too; I think I do it because i am afraid of people engaging in a conversation with me or similar. I want nothing to do with them. Even having visitors in my apt, stresses me out. I think maybe because it has to do with personal space (even though they might not be near me), and again, I think I am afraid of having to engage in conversation, in which I have nothing to say and dont want to talk to anyone.

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I have a massive problem with strangers coming into the house, or people I don't know very well. If I don't know the person at all then I usually hide, if it's someone I know vaguely then I will force myself to spend some time with them to be polite (usually over dinner or something else that I can't get out of) and then go and hide.

We're going to be having loads of family over in June, and I'm terrified, because I don't know them very well at all, and I don't want strangers invading my living space (and doing things like using my bed and usurping the study, so I can't escape to either of those rooms), and if the house is too full (this occurs if there is even one person extra) then I start going stir crazy.

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Yeh am the exact same, hate having company in my house. Even my own family and friend. :( I feel really awkward and uneasy, and my anxiety levels go through the roof :o. I used to be this really sociable person about 4 year ago, and now everything just went down hill. But i'm starting to climb back up again through CBT. :)

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I'm the same way. For me it's not that I don't want to be around people. I just prefer that if I'm going to be around people I'm at their house or out in public. I live in a very tiny apartment so it's not the best place for company. I don't answer the door at all during the day either unless I'm expecting something.

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I was mugged in my own apartment because I opened the door on night when not expecting anyone over. So now I do not answer the door unless I expect someone. Friends have learned to call first before coming by. It is unreal how long some people will knock on the door. I had one person circle my house and knock on all the windows then go back to knocking on my door. I called the police on them.

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I would never let someone in my filthy house. But when we have to, I kind of flip out. DH has noticed it, and deals with anyone who enters the house.

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My home is my personal space, and for somebody to come into that makes me feel invaded. I am terrified of visitors. I never let anybody in unless I am certain of who they are (they have to phone me when they arrive).

I don't even like friends to visit. If a friend wants to spend time with me for whatever reason then I will go out to meet them at a mutually convenient place, such as a local cafe or similar.

Having personal space is too important to me.

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Agree with all of the above. I hate hate hate it. I hide in my room when my son has friends over. Luckily my husbands even worse than I am about this so I don't have to deal with him inviting people over. My house is a refuge, I like my privacy.

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Same here. My house is a me and hubby zone and my relatives know not to come in. I feel like my space is violated.

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I have alot of kid traffic in my home from my daughters, some of them have been coming over for almost 10 years and I still panic when I am left in a room alone with one of their friends. Having to create conversation with them is intimidating. I honestly wish I knew how to like visitors, for right now highly awkward is the best I can do. I don't have any family or friends that could or would come over, Although I occasionally have parents of their friends at the doorstep for a small and equally awkward "how are you"

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I hate having visitors too. Even people from my family or close friends, if they visit me, make me feel really vulnerable. I end up putting an act on to hide my depression but sometimes that's impossible. My parents got some tree cutters in a few weeks ago, they were in the back garden for about 3 hours, I hid in a room with the curtains closed all that time.

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I just dont want to engage in conversation; I have nothing to say, and the other person probably doesnt want to hear it. I want to be left alone.

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