Cetkat Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 After the whole eating of 1/3rd of a loaf of bread (finishing it off) and nearly whole package of bagels.. I thought the whole, "hey, don't eat my food thing" had gotten through. Apparently not. It's become less egregious, but now it's all about condiments/ingredients. And not just a little.. we're talking 1/4th of a parkay (butter) tub, and a bunch of sugar and cinnamon. She *has* sugar, and yet my stuff gets gotten into when she has company over. There was stuff left out on the counter that had been taken out to get to my sugar, it - nearly empty- on another shelf.. sugar all over that shelf. Oh, and the freezer door was left open. Thankfully I got to that before anything went bad. This, after letting her (not on her lease) cat open a tube of purple glitter and spread it all across the the common area floor. She just left it. I wake up with purple glitter all over me from walking to the kitchen and back in the dark without noticing it and getting back into bed. She never does her dishes and she puts her room trash in the kitchen trash can (or sometimes just beside it in a separate bag) and just expects me and the other roommate to take it out - THEN she bitches about us reminding her it's her turn to take it out when it's overflowing. And she's STILL SMOKING in her room! It's been about 5 months now since I first asked her to stop. Now she just smokes outside and in and feigns not knowing why the apartment smells of cigarettes and pot. I've been pretty nice about it up to this point. Not once have I yelled or gotten into an argument. I preface things with "please" and don't nag her about things. Most of the time I just suck it up and let it go. Now, I'm tired of it. I figure that if she has refused to quit the smoking after months of leniency, I'm done. At this point, I think I'm going to go to management about it, and I may just mention that there's pot involved too just so they actually do something about it. I haven't decided about that part yet. I may just say "smoking" and if they ask, I'll be honest. I'm certainly not going to lie to management about it. I've thought about giving a "final warning".. but at this point.. why? She obviously does not care about anyone but herself & thinks this place is her domain. Hate to break it to you kid, but you're not living on your own. The fact that you don't know us, we're not your little girlfriends, and there are rules to renting a room here.. well, you've been given ALOT of slack. Drugs and pets are breaking your lease. How can you be so stupid to think that you can then act like you're a special little snowflake and respond that you're going to do what you want when you want? Um.. no. I really wanted to avoid third party involvement, but I'm just fed up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lifequake Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 Oh, man, that sounds like such an annoying situation! I am impressed that you have been able to keep your cool around this roommate. Eating your food, smoking inside, leaving dirty dishes everywhere....are you sure we don't live with the same roommate?! I totally hear you, and I know how frustrating it can be to feel like you have to be someone's nagging mother in order to get them to take the trash out. I hope management is able to help resolve this situation or that your lease term ends soon. Very soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rowan77 Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 My goodness, that sounds incredibly similar to a situation I was in except my housemate didn't smoke. But she ate my food all the time and was extremely messy. I was the only one that did any form of cleaning and if I wasn't there the bins just would not be put out....how hard is it to wheel the wheelie bin around to the front to be collected....the mind boggles. The difficult thing for me was that she was actually a really nice person. I think it would have been easier to confront her if she had been a total cow. I ended up clearing a space in my room and storing the non perishable foods there such as breakfast cereal and bread. But I had to leave the milk in the fridge and that was her favourite thing to "borrow", but I never did get paid back. I really really feel your pain. It's a horrible situation to be in. I eventually moved out as I just couldn't hack the situation, (also the rent was way too expensive anyway and I found more affordable accommodation) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scatty Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 My DH had similiar issues and got his own place two months into his first place, leaving his roomates high and dry (since he was not on the lease!) Buy yourself out of the lease with the management if you can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cetkat Posted June 22, 2012 Author Share Posted June 22, 2012 Well, this is the most affordable place for me to be, and the best quality. I'd have to get housing assistance to go anywhere else, and that's so backed up they stopped even adding people to the list. Fact is, the issues that I'm having with her are written into the leasing agreement as things that aren't acceptable. If push came to shove, she'd be the one moving. If they knew all the ways she's broken her agreement, she'd be gone already. I'm hoping it won't come to that though. She's not a bad person.. she's just acting like she's still in high school. I think that with a severe enough warning from management, she'd stop the smoking - which is my main concern. The question is how to go about getting it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catnapper Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 I don't know all the ins and outs, but I'd be really careful what I told the property manager about. My experience in a similar situation was that the one offending party caused us all to be thrown out, even though it was just that one person was violating the lease terms. Management may not care who owns the cat, just that there's a cat, and there's not supposed to be one. Especially with the pot smoking, I would play extremely dumb. The cops may haul everyone off to jail, and all the logic and reason in the world won't help at that point. It seems like too big of a chance to take, especially since just the plain smoking is enough to ask her to leave. Hope it all gets sorted out in your favor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cetkat Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 I don't know all the ins and outs, but I'd be really careful what I told the property manager about. My experience in a similar situation was that the one offending party caused us all to be thrown out, even though it was just that one person was violating the lease terms. Management may not care who owns the cat, just that there's a cat, and there's not supposed to be one. Especially with the pot smoking, I would play extremely dumb. The cops may haul everyone off to jail, and all the logic and reason in the world won't help at that point. It seems like too big of a chance to take, especially since just the plain smoking is enough to ask her to leave. Hope it all gets sorted out in your favor. Hmm.. well, given that we're on individual leases and she only smokes in her room behind a deadbolt (an area I have zero access to by design) - it's more like smelling it from your neighbor across the hall. However, I suppose it may bring up the question of why.. if I know what the smell is.. am I only bringing it up now. It may be more prudent to pretend I can only smell the cigarette smoke... she only does the pot at night, so there's little chance of them coming in the apartment and smelling it themselves. Perhaps that would be best after all. That, or saying sometimes it smells a bit off, but I don't know why. The plain smoking is against the rules, but it would take a lot for them to move her elsewhere or terminate the lease. It's more the culmination of the cat, having someone live with her for weeks, eating my food, not cleaning up, giving people access to the apartment and her room without her being present, etc.. a bunch of warning things that would add up to termination. Pot is the only thing that is grounds for immediate removal, and then only with proof. I don't plan on mentioning the cat. Their first response here is a warning and a fine, but I'm betting I could get out of that.. and if not, she's already told us she'd pay the entire amount herself. If she were to go back on that, my other roommate would have her ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cetkat Posted June 29, 2012 Author Share Posted June 29, 2012 Well - interesting turn of events..... .. ... .... SHE'S MOVING OUT! She has a bunch of guys moving all her shit out of her room as I type! I'm SO stoked!!! ...and she didn't smoke once since I got fed up. Yay for procrastination on me dealing with the problem! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrankyMe Posted June 30, 2012 Share Posted June 30, 2012 Good, I'm glad the issue resolved itself without having to put your own lease at peril. Hopefully whomever replaces her is a good roomie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wj74 Posted June 30, 2012 Share Posted June 30, 2012 yay! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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