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Just a year ago I remember how fun it was to go out with friends and have a few drinks.. And on occasion get wild and laugh and be silly. I was on celexa at the time and guess the alcohol didn't have bad reactions. And now when a friend calls I have to say no cuz its hard to be at a bar and not be able to drink. I know my illness and medication stability is more important but I really miss those days. I used to love dancing. Everything got fucked up when I was prescribed Prozac and now it feels like a life sentence. I want my previous life back. Hangovers kinda suck but damn those nights were fun

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Can you go out and not drink? Maybe have fizzy water or something? Or maybe nurse one drink for a few hours? Being on psych meds doesn't mean you can't go out and be wild and laugh and be silly. If you used to love dancing then you probably still do. Give it a try. You'd be amazed how much fun you can still have.

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I'm no saint when it comes to abstaining from alcohol but I am making progress in letting it fade away. I know how you feel though. You've got to downgrade your life in some ways in order to upgrade your mental stability and it's shitty reality, at least for me. I know for me I have to stay away from certain social situations if I want to stay away from things that hurt my overall stability. Sometimes it's a little depressing because I'm isolated during times I don't want to be. But I know I'd cave in and drink if I went to a bar even with the intention of not drinking.

That's just because of my addictive personality. You could be different. My only advice is to try and replace those fun times with other proactive and social activities. Not so easy as I'm learning. Exercising and getting on a workout schedule with my brother is one of the ways I'm trying to create good times out of sober activities. Seriously though, good job at avoiding the social pressures. It's something that takes real strength.

Letting go of the crazy fun and good memories is damn difficult.

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One thing I learnt pretty quickly was that you don't need alcohol to have a good time. I used to think that if I was out socialising then I had to drink, so I used to drink copious amounts of alcohol. Now I realise you don't need to drink if you want to go out. Or if you do a drink, you don't need to be hammered.

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One thing I learnt pretty quickly was that you don't need alcohol to have a good time. I used to think that if I was out socialising then I had to drink, so I used to drink copious amounts of alcohol. Now I realise you don't need to drink if you want to go out. Or if you do a drink, you don't need to be hammered.

This is key. It's a matter of slowing down and actually enjoying your beer and not getting into liquor (or keeping it to one drink). But again, it can be hard depending on the setting.

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Likesnowlikegold, just so you know, pdocs differ on the amount of drinking that they allow their patients. Some want total abstinence. My pdoc says I can drink moderately, up to 1 or 2 drinks a week. Although sometimes my husband and I split a bottle of wine, so 2.5 drinks on that night. But I usually have a bottle of beer or hard cider once every 10 days or so.

I would check with your pdoc, or at least let him/her know that you are drinking. Alcohol is a drug, after all, so it is a little bit like you are fiddling with your cocktail (a little bit).

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kicks beer bottle. you guys are right. I just miss the fun buzz. Last halloween (last year) was so much fun and all i had was a red bull..so you're right but thats a different kinda night anyway hahaaha

i'm scared to death to drink right now i wont' even smoke a doob

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Hmm, I don't miss it at all, but I still go out and have a good time, I just don't drink to excess like I used to (which is nice because now I don't have to worry about things like I used to either). But for me drinking was a way to self-medicate and now that I'm medicated properly I don't find it necessary to drink as much. I will still have a drink now and then, but I tested it at home before on many occasions to make sure it doesn't interact with my meds in a severe way. And I most definitely won't drive. But I can also go out and have fun and be silly with no drinks. I'm just a goofball anyway though.

Have you thought about the types of people you hang out with though? I changed my whole group of friends up (mostly because my old group of friends was no good, not supportive of my MI and well, they were just bad people in general) and the people that I am friends with now, we have a fabulous time and don't feel the need to drink as much as I used to with my other friends. Sure we might have a glass of wine or a beer, but that is the extent of it and we still find stuff to laugh at and goof on.

One good thing that has come of this is that I have lost weight because I'm not drinking so much on the weekends, and therefore not eating a bunch of junk. :) And no hang overs which is awesome. :) And I also don't get that awful week long depressive funk I used to get into after a Saturday night of partying. yeah, I definitely don't miss it. Maybe you will get used to it.

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I actually usually drink at home. I am the designated drive of the couple, so I don't like to drink at restaurants. And because my head is so unpredictable, I don't want to risk its "going off" unless I am already somewhere where I can go lie down.

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I find I don't have as much fun as bars and restaurants.. I have more fun at home, because then I don't have to worry about cabs or designated drivers or me staying sober and someone puking in my car. Also, when I'm home, I can escape to my room.

I've cut waaaay back on the drinking. I can have a good time without a drink now, moreso than before. I save it for special occasions, rather than every weekend. I also drink more responsibly so well, I remember the night before, rather than black-out drink.

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