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Yes. I try to groom, etc., but sometimes it just doesn't happen. I also look physically ill in the face sometimes (pale, etc.) and the rings under my eyes get darker no matter how much sleep I get. The main thing people would say when I was coming out of my last severe depressive episode that my eyes looked clear/alive; I think they tend to look a bit "dead" when I'm really depressed. Not to mention the weight loss or gain too  <_< 

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Absolutely. I look exhausted and haggard. I either sleep too much or too little and thus develop black arcs beneath my eyes that look as if I have been slugged. My complexion dulls and I tend to accumulate a plethora of pimples in mt "T-zone".

 

As I tend to not drink adequate water, I develop sores in the corners of my mouth and my skin becomes dry and scaly.

 

Flash sees that I shower and change clothes, but I just stop caring and it shows. I have seen photos and they are not pretty.

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Holy crap, my depression DEFINITELY affects how I look.  It's easy for almost anyone to see that I've hit a depressive episode when they look at me.  I don't bother keeping up with my hair dye, so it grows out into its usual black and grey mess and I just shove it all in a clip when I go somewhere.  It gets frazzled and I just don't have the energy or desire to keep up with it.   I also don't eat much or well and don't drink a lot of water, so I really get sickly looking.   I've normally got an olive complexion and I manage to turn white as a ghost when I'm depressed - I start getting called Morticia Adams and even my SO's mom's doctors tell ME to get well soon even though they don't know about my diagnosis.  I guess the major dark circles under my eyes and the fact that even my voice goes pretty flat also give it away.

 

I also just completely stop giving a crap about what I wear.  I don't wear shorts at all because I don't shave my legs.  I just throw on a pair of track pants, my old and busted sandals and whatever t-shirt I pull out of the drawer or my laundry pile that doesn't look or smell dirty. 

 

I guess I just get so depressed that I just completely wind down and don't have the energy to even give a crap anymore.

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I wear dirty, worn clothes, don't brush my teeth or hair as I should, wear flip-flops when I have to go out even in 20 degree weather, etc. And since I'm unable to work I rarely go out to places I "have" to do more than the minimum.

 

I have never had a problem with showering, fortunately.

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 I don't bother keeping up with my hair dye, so it grows out into its usual black and grey mess...

 

This is exactly why I haven't started dying my hair!  I bought a box of hair coloring over 6 months ago, and the fear that I won't keep up on it is one of the things that keeps from from just biting the bullet & doing it.  The other is the allergy test...I barely have the gumption to dye my hair, so performing the allergy test 48 hours before seems overwhelming.  

 

I'm sure my appearance has suffered from my depression...I suffer from many of the afflictions listed above...I only do my laundry when I *have* to, I wear the same clothes for days, I shower about once a week now, I only brush my teeth on the days that I have to go to work...the list goes on & on.

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Yes. I am depressed right now. No make up, pajamas-that I've worn for days, hair not brushed, haven't showered, teeth not brushed. Back when I had long hair my hair would become so knotted it looked like a nest. Took tons of stuff to fix it.

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i'll just echo what was already said about lack of caring about appearance.  my tdoc knows me well enough now that even if i'm wearing clean clothes and such, the look on my face tells her exactly where i am on the bipolar scale.  my eyes don't lie, i guess.  or rather the dark circles underneath them.  and my lack of facial expression, when i'm usually quite animated.

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After I got out of the hospital my first time, apparently there was more color to my face, and I looked better. ^.^

 

I couldn't imagine what I looked like before I got in there if there was that much of a difference! :c

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My treatment providers can definitely pick up on the severity of my depression before they even ask how I'm doing, too.  I can wear clean clothes and try to look decent and they can see right through it.  I think it probably irritates them more when I do that.  I'm probably going to get some bewildered looks when I go in there with glitter polish on my nails tomorrow, but that wasn't so much caring about my appearance as it was to stop me from chewing on them.  Does anyone else find that if they DO try to make themselves look better in the middle of a depression that it makes them feel worse?  I think I feel more depressed because I wasted whatever time, money and energy I put into it and still look like crap, then I get irritated because I was stupid enough to desperately try something like that again.

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Definitely. I don't wear makeup, throw on whatever clothes and sometimes skip showers. I generally look exhausted and flat, I don't have that sparkle in my eyes. I can say I'm sick and people believe me.

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I think that even though I may TRY to look ok when I'm feeling bad, it shows on my face. I'm told too often that you can tell what I'm thinking/feeling by the look on my face. Despite me trying to not let that happen....

 

I tend to not wear my contacts, the same shirt a couple days in a row, a hat if I haven't showered (my telltale sign that I haven't showered/don't care), have dark circles under my eyes, etc.

 

Hubby has said that I don't look as "pale" as I did before I went in when I have been hospitalized.

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I usually wash my hair every other day, its on the dry side and i keep it short. I have dark red circles under my eyes, i dont sleep well. If i could wear the same clothes every day i would but i alternate my tshirts and hoodies, i wear the same jeans for a couple of days then switch. I usually have to talk myself into doing these things. I gained some weight and feel like crap, no desire at all.

Dx: PTSD, depression, eating disorder, self injury

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For me it really shows on my face.  My eyes apparently look different when depressed.  One of my DRs (neuro) really picks up on it sometimes before I realize I am, and he says I look really "under the weather"; that's when I realize I must be depressed.  I don't even know it half the time.

 

Fortunately I still shower and all when I am depressed or I get really ancy and feel gross, making the agitation I have at the time much worse. 

 

But other than my face showing something, I don't think others can pick up on it because I shower, get out (usually), etc.

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Not always. 

At one stage people kept telling me I looked great. I think I felt so bad I was going out of my way to disguise it. 

 

I always have really dark circles under my eyes (combination of allergies and pale, thin skin) and even with heavy concealer I still look exhausted.

 

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I think that even though I may TRY to look ok when I'm feeling bad, it shows on my face. I'm told too often that you can tell what I'm thinking/feeling by the look on my face. Despite me trying to not let that happen....

 

I tend to not wear my contacts, the same shirt a couple days in a row, a hat if I haven't showered (my telltale sign that I haven't showered/don't care), have dark circles under my eyes, etc.

 

Hubby has said that I don't look as "pale" as I did before I went in when I have been hospitalized.

That's me too...I spackle the makeup on to hide my misery but people just 'know' when I'm depressed.  And I *hate* hate hate when they're like "Are you ok? You look tired...You don't seem like yourself today...." Gimme a flippin break! Am I supposed to be f'ing Mary Poppins every day?! I hate that concerned face they get too... Just leave me alone...as if you care...as if you can help... You know?...I mean, they're perfectly happy contented little sheeple going home to their kids and having sex with their SO's...And I'm alone, mistreated, abused, gaslighted, untouched and completely and utterly miserable.

 

I don't say things to people like, gee you look tired today or wow you've put on weight...like, how rude?! I may think it but I don't say it...I figure if someone looks tired and they 'wanna talk about it' I'll listen...but I know how it feels so I don't want to make them feel worse by being like, Hey you really look like shit today!... 

 

All I know is there isn't a concealer in the world that will cover up my dark circles enough and there isn't enough luminizer on the planet to make my skin not look dull, tired, flat and worn out... And once I leave work, all that shit comes off anyways and I'm back in my jammies and slippers and fuzzy robe.  I've gotten to the point where I don't give a rats ass if the neighbors think I'm nuts..I *am* nuts...

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I wonder this all the time, except I wonder if the appearance alteration (dark circles under eyes, sallow skin) is permanent. Both your mood and how much your body is physically taxed can affect how you look, I suspect.

 

Probably I'll end up looking 60 by the time I'm 35 because of being depressed/anxious so often. 

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