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I think I have identified a negative pattern in my life.  I tend to drop people when they let me down.  These folks inevitably end up disliking me, and then I feel that "nobody likes me."

The thing is that I am VERY sensitive.  I'm also VERY nonconfrontational, so rather than talking about an issue that's bothering me (and possibly resolving it) I try to ignore it or just distance myself from the person.

For example, I had a friend who was extremely self absorbed.  I remember one time I was crying to her on the phone, and of course she turned the conversation right around to herself and her missing her ex.  It's always about *her*.  But--I do think she's a good person.  I never said anything about how I felt, and eventually I just stopped returning her calls.  Thing is, I don't hate her, I just didn't know how to confront her and never felt like talking to her because I was mad about how she always turned the focus of every conversation onto herself.

This sort of thing happens to me a lot.  I live in a smallish city where I bump into people all of the time.  I feel that this pattern has me creating a lot of enemies and/or ex-friends.  I just wonder if there's a better way for me to handle these things?  I think I'd have a lot more friends and I wouldn't be so paranoid that people dislike me.  Any suggestions?

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I think its better to just get rid of people who let you down.  I'm 32 and for years I had 2 friends from high school, and put up with shit they would do that I didn't like.  Then we had a big falling out (long story), and I actually like being alone better.  I'm a loner anyway, not a social person at all. 

Same thing goes for a girlfriend.  I've never had a girlfriend, but I know if I did eventually she would do something I didn't like and piss me off or hurt my feelings.  So why not just save myself the trouble and not have a girlfriend to begin with?  When I'm horny I can go to an escort once in a while and take care of that.  I guess I really don't have much genuine interest in other people.  But that's just me.

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