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Handling sex drive as a single Christian

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I think the important thing when dealing with masterbation and christianity is not to let it hinder your relationship with God. Whether it's a sin or not if you let it come between you and God that is not good. If you still feel it's a sin, accept it as a weakness that you cannot over come at the moment. Don't let it make you give up on developing a relationship with God. If your trying to go as long as you can without masterbating then when you can't take it anymore and give in then you feel racked with guilt. Instead of doing that accept that you can't go too long without it and allow yourself some slack and allow yourself to masterbate on a regular basis like once a day or something and set that as your limit. Anyways I've found the longer I go without masterbation the more i think about sex. If I masterbate regularly I'm not as horny all the time and as a result am actually thinking less 'impure thoughts' overall and that has to be good right?

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Some of this may be more detailed than you care for. Just sayin'.

 

I am a Christian who often experiences hypersexuality. I don't enjoy hypersexuality, because it's too easy for me to choose to view pornography, hit on strangers, and make an ass of myself to my friends. I've gone so far as to hit on my friend's wife while they were separated. Masturbation, however, is possible without lust. The prohibition we have from Scripture is on fornication, which is very specific. Translated, the word "fornication" indicates strictly, and only, vaginal penetration by the penis. We are to avoid that act prior to (and outside of) marriage, and any action or thought that would lead us to that.

 

As a straight, virgin man, I can only speak to men as far as my experience is concerned. Guys, we all know what masturbation for us is meant to simulate. However, in keeping with the other tenants of Scripture (i.e., treating women with respect), I have found--even with having no feeling on the skin there because of my spina bifida--it is possible to handle hypersexual "cravings" through masturbation without even thinking or considering a woman who exists, or without considering fornication at all. If I find that possible, I'm positive that 99% of at least men can achieve orgasm.

 

Ladies, I've never been one of you, so I don't know if my advice is helpful. Sorry.

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Be free from GMO, MSG and others as no gluttony. Sloth leads horniness so to stay busy. But stress can corner you to horniness. It is always better to be single as I AM. But for sex is to stay inside marriage. Masturbation abuses desire. Keep the head up with discernment than sinful judgement as motives. I injured my lower back badly as two bulged discs. Been on pain medication from Rx to opiate street drug for 6 years and fell to heavy pure meth use for another 3 years. BOOM! I got out of it from studying the Holy Bible. I have so much to share. I have not lost anything. I still have the first love. Still first marriage. Kids are beautiful. So much more. 

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1 Corinthians 6:18

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body .

Colossians 3:5

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

1 Corinthians 7:2 

But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

Romans 12;2

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

1 Timothy 4:12

Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. :)

Romans 1:24-25

Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen

 

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BLOSSOM -

This is your first post, so I must assume you did not read the special rules at the beginning of the Spirituality Board. Proselytizing is forbidden here. You may not use this board as a platform to promote any form of religious belief over any other religious belief or lifestyle, and you may not pronounce or infer judgments upon other members, as you are not, in fact, a deity.

The intent of your post is plain, to wag your finger at us for our temptation to sexual immorality. I shall, however, rather than hide your post altogether, remark upon its content:

You have selected a series of Biblical verses from the New Testament of the Christian Bible, automatically limiting its applicability to a single faith; as other faiths also address the question of human sexuality (perforce), this necessarily raises some doubt as to whether the arguments made by your choice of scripture must be seen as a pan-human Truth.

Even within a Christian context, your selections exclusively fall within the writings of Paul, whom Biblical scholars universally agree gave disproportionate attention to the question of sexual activity in the books authored by him. The reasons for this are debated, but it is generally considered (by those scholars charitable toward him) that his emphasis was about developing self-control in Christians and in the Church in an era when humans at large exercised rather little, and thus to set Christians apart from others, to be seen by the world as persons of self-control who could be trusted not to act in their own base (i.e., sexual) interests. I offer in this vein an interesting article on Paul and Sexual Sin.

Others have argued that Paul's Judaic rabbinical training in Levitical law predisposed him to be hard-nosed about Old-Testament law, and sexual no-nos simply put a nest of bees in his bonnet - they also provided extremely handy comparisons for talking about things like a church worshipping idols being like a woman seeking other lovers than her husband.

I myself, when young, paid a great deal of attention to Paul, with the result that when a dear friend at last, in an act of mercy, parted me from my virginity in my mid-20s, I was literally prepared to be struck by holy lightning. Waited for it. Couldn't understand why it didn't happen. I had spent years of my life from puberty all the way through my undergraduate study trying mightily to do the impossible task of not being a normal young human male, and I achieved it - and made myself a basket case in the process. Thanks a heap, Paul.

At last I began to apply a little logic. God, you see, actually makes sense. We have a sexual drive because we were created with one built right in. It's supposed to work this way. It drives us to act. "Drive" - it's in the name, see? We were created to be particularly attractive to one another at a particular time in our lives, when the drive is strongest. Go figure. We occupy animal bodies. They do that. What kind of sensible Deity builds his creation in that kind of set-up and then says, "NOW GO FORTH AND PRETEND LIKE NOTHING'S HAPPENING"? In fact, as I recall, the mandate was "GO FORTH AND MULTIPLY."

Now, that obviously has its limits, and there are scads of excellent reasons not to live a promiscuous lifestyle that one might think just from biology alone, setting aside all of the sociocultural baggage, even if God hadn't thought of them first. But let's assume for a moment that you don't accidentally get pregnant/impregnate someone, end up with temporary or permanent VD, break someone's heart, unforgivably betray someone you truly love, destroy someone else's marriage, ruin someone's life, or get yourself killed by someone's enraged spouse/significant other, or become seriously injured or dead by some method too kinky to be mentioned in your obituary. The question that's really on your mind if you're reading this thread is: If I do IT with someone who isn't my spouse, am I going to burn in Hell for all Eternity?

I don't know, but I very much doubt it. If one is really a Christian - as in, believes what Christ said - behave as you believe Christ would have behaved, and if you mess up, ask forgiveness. You'll get it 100% of the time, and you'll be saved by His grace. If you follow a different faith, look to the tenets of your faith that speak of the love of God, or Allah, or whoever are the gods who are your Universe, and of the nature of love between people, and live according to those teachings. Stop worrying about people who want to hit you over the head with a book of rules and listen to what you heart, when it's speaking truth, tells you is good. To live according to selfless love is a correct path in any faith.

 

Cerberus
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Jesus is my life, I'm single/never-married, haven't had any physical intimacy in like 10yrs, and ya I also have Supr high drive still. Jus get it out as simple/necessary as possible. I c it as a trap and as a lower-self animalistic drive. Wwjd?

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The scriptures are notably silent on the subject of what Jesus personally did with regard  to "jus getting it out". Anything you might suggest would be nothing more than guessing, and probably blasphemous guessing that in another era would have gotten you labeled a heretic and tarred and feathered at the very least. Hush, now.

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