fya13 Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Dear adult housemate, Please stop throwing your trash in the general region of the bin, and then leave it on the floor when it doesn't make it in. Also, I should not have to clean your "smears" off the toilet seat. I have OCD and need to use half a can of Lysol to make it clean enough afterwards. Not to mention, I now want to boil my hands then soak them in bleach. Signed, A very grossed out germophobe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neptunesky Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 (edited) Hi Sorry your having to clean after some one else, but i have lived in far worse places, believe me i won't type it because i don't want to aggravate your OCD. Could you have a quite word with the person? Edited January 31, 2014 by neptunesky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fya13 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Share Posted January 31, 2014 I guess I could, but it would feel awkward asking them to take more care when wiping. The trash thing I have brought up before, because technically my whole household seems to have a problem with that. It doesn't seem to have made a difference. I guess I can let that one go. My OCD mostly revolves around bodily fluids, so the toilet is the major issue for me. I don't mind clutter or dust, but pee or worse on the toilet seat freaks me out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissaw72 Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 That would really bother me too, especially if it was on my toilet, or a toilet I had to sit on at someone else's house. Maybe you can line the back on the toilet with like 5 or 6 cans of lysol and some paper towels, so they might get the hint to clean up after themselves? Or at least they might ask you about why all the lysol is there, and then you might be able to bring up the situation in some way, and ask them to please clean the toilet after each use because you have a germ issue (personally, I'd admit that to anyone if my toilet was messed on). They might just clean the toilet after each use. Just a thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Hi Sorry your having to clean after some one else, but i have lived in far worse places, believe me i won't type it because i don't want to aggravate your OCD. Could you have a quite word with the person? No. It is not the suffering Olympics. We don't do that here. You are not worse-off just because you actually experienced it. And your experience, being subjective, is not worse than anyone else. You have already been told that if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. That includes put-downs however subtle. You are rapidly becoming a bigger asshole than the mods, and that pisses us off. Cease and desist. Now. OP, if talking with your housemate isn't leading to changes in his behaviour, then there isn't much more corrective action that you can take short of withholding your shares of the responsibility (utilities, rent, food, however you've divided it up). You could get retaliatory and put the garbage back into his room, but such things don't tend to lead to domestic peace. Sometimes people just aren't compatible and it might be time to think about moving if this continues. You can also buy those paper seat covers that you sometimes see in public bathrooms. You can buy them by the box at the pharmacy. I think they come in sets of 25 or 50. That might be a better solution for you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saveyoursanity Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 You can also buy those paper seat covers that you sometimes see in public bathrooms. You can buy them by the box at the pharmacy. I think they come in sets of 25 or 50. That might be a better solution for you? Rosie, I think you just saved my relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
San Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Paper cover sheets are a great idea if they won't clean up after themselves. It would be a rather awkward conversation to have about them cleaning up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mim Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Paper seat covers are a great idea. I was going to say, if you all divvy up chores more or less, maybe you could say, since you end up cleaning up the bathroom, perhaps the offender could take your share of the dishes, or something like that? Some people are defensive or angry about things like this, but maybe framing it as a compromise of sorts could help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neptunesky Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 (edited) I stand by my experience, i don't know how you can objectively comment on it as you weren't there. I once bought a huge bottle of bleach and put it in the bathroom, hoping that they'd get the hint, they didn't take one bit of notice. Edited February 1, 2014 by neptunesky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mim Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 I stand by my experience, i don't know how you can objectively comment on it as you weren't there. I once bought a huge bottle of bleach and put it in the bathroom, hoping that they'd get the hint, they didn't take one bit of notice. I'm likely sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong, and Rosie, please tell me if I am, but the problem isn't relating a shared experience. The problem is this but i have lived in far worse places, believe me which is invalidating as all hell, and not especially helpful. Nothing quite like being told that the problem you're having isn't as important because someone else had it worse. That's bullshit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fya13 Posted February 1, 2014 Author Share Posted February 1, 2014 I like the paper covers idea. Will definitely look into that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neptunesky Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 (edited) Quit this invalidating crap! i never said that the person didn't suffer, this was your assumptions of what i actually meant. I DID NOT SAY THAT I HAD SUFFERED MORE. I even offered advice. Edited February 1, 2014 by neptunesky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnaBanana Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 but i have lived in far worse places Uh yeah, that pretty much says "I've had it worse than you". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neptunesky Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 ^ that's not what i meant! I meant that it could be much worse than what she had to deal with, it was meant to be comforting. I guess i failed, im getting pretty annoyed, it's not ok for me to make assumptions, but it's fine when someone does it to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 I like the paper covers idea. Will definitely look into that. I hope that helps. I would feel awkward bringing up the bathroom issue, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neptunesky Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 Could you move somewhere else?, is it financially possible? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnaBanana Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 I would get some lysol/clorox wipes and put them on the back of the toilet. I don't know if you live with more than one person or not, but I would have a house meeting about cleaning the bathroom after oneself. I'm just kinda blunt like that though and have no problem discussing my issues with someone. Or you could put a sign up in the bathroom over the wipes, please wipe the seat! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saveyoursanity Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 Well, the paper seat covers in this house is because (watch out, it gets twisty from here) I'm pretty sure the mess is my fault BUT he uses the bathroom too AND so I would much rather blame it on him. The paper seat covers will let me know who to blame, because he'd never remember to use them :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catnapper Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 I would be totally grossed out, too. My newest friend is a box of 100? or 500?, anyway, a lot of disposable nitrile gloves (I'm allergic to latex). I got them at the drugstore for less than $10, and although I originally bought them to use when coloring my hair, I now use them for all sorts of things that might leave my hands smelly, like cleaning windows, or using any cleaners at all, or when I bag up the outside trash can to take to the dump (live in a rural area), etc. If I were you I'd take a few with me to the bathroom every time to tidy things up and not be grossed out. I would also invest in disinfecting wipes since I don't like breathing all that disinfectant spray, and I would use baby wipes after the disinfectant since I have sensitive skin and get rashes really easily, but that's just me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mim Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 ^ Nitrile gloves are good for latex allergies, too, if that's a problem for you. At least, they have been for me. Bonus points for the lack of that distinctive rubber glove smell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Schmoo Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Toilet seat smears!!!!!! NOOOOOOO!!!!!! That is so horrible!!!!!! That would almost make me want to go dig a hole and go outdoors! Though the paper seat covers might help. OMG that sucks that you are dealing with that. That is so inconsiderate!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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