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I finally got the courage to talk to a Doctor about my bulimia today and feel like he was completely dismissive of it. I was in to discuss something else (pain meds) and he asked if my general health  was okay, I told him I had been really worried about my health due to being sick most of my life (14 years), he asked if it was recurrent sickness but when I said that I had been doing it myself he said that the pain makes things feel worse and I would feel a lot better about it after I've managed to get some sleep. I am on pain relief for a minor operation I had last week - I hardly think that when I've recovered from that half a lifetime of being sick will feel less serious to me, 

 

I have been worrying a lot since before Christmas as I finally made myself face up to the long term problems and have wanted to have a health check since then. I have improved a lot over the last few months but still relapse sometimes. I had a friend at work with the same problem and we were going to help each other but it just made me relapse due to her being older and skinnier than me (she also binge exercises about 2 hours a day).

 

I feel really humiliated that I dont feel I was taken seriously after finally getting the courage to speak up so I dont really see where else there is to go from this. 

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Welcome to CB :)

 

That took a lot of courage to tell your DR, and that is something to be proud about ...  I'm sorry though that your DR didn't take you seriously.  Can you find another DR?  Do you see a psychiatrist (pdoc) you could tell?

 

Or maybe write a very detailed letter to your DR describing what you've been going through, and then mailing it to her (keeping a copy for yourself in case they say they "didn't get it")?  When I've done this to DRs, every time I've gotten a call to come in and talk about it.  They always seem to listen more (if they aren't already taking me seriously) when I write to them.

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Good for you for speaking up! It can be so hard. It's devastating to not be believed.

It sounds to me as though there was a lack of understanding. When I'm in a lot of pain I get nauseated from it. Perhaps that is the track that your doctor was thinking - that you do it as a result of something else.

 

I wonder if you can tried again more generally - "I am worried that I have an eating disorder. Can you help me with a referral?" if that might be a little better? Sometimes we need to keep bringing up issues until they are taken seriously. I usually bring a concerned relative with me to help me convey that this is seriously a problem. Otherwise I tend to be dismissed.

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Another welcome to CB.

It is horrible to not be believed. Rosie has some good suggestions, be more direct, and don't stop until you get the referral. 

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