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“The ship is safest when it is in port, but that’s not what ships were built for.” ~ Paulo Coelho

 

No matter how many times you repeat those words, it is still there, same old fear that does not let you leave your comfort zone, fear that makes you fear the unknown. So you rather hide, unhappy, asking yourself, what is my passion, purpose of my life, but so scared to make a step forward and discover it, because once you left your old life, there is no way back, you are alone, on your own and there is no guarantee, no one to tell you not to worry, everything is going to be ok. You admire people who followed their dreams, reached their goals and you get confronted with a question “but what are your goals, your passion” and you get the same answer back “I don’t know”. So the answer scares you even more, because how can you not know, are you that stupid?! , how do other people know?! And you panic, because you know, you got only this one chance, and the time is running, so fast that you barely realise it, you don’t have any more time to waste on things you do not like, job that makes you unhappy, so you dig into yourself, looking for an answer, hoping that one day you will wake up and get an idea, idea that will make you discover where your passion lies, what your heart burns for. But you already know that it is going to be more difficult than that.

You hear people tell you, you are a dreamer, that you lost a grip of reality, that you are looking for something that does not exist, that you need to settle with your life as it is now and accept it, be grateful for all the good things and blessings, think of the people who do not have a roof over their heads, no food on their plate. They talk to you, as if you are not already aware of all that. They make you think of yourself as spoiled, make you ask yourself “are they right”. But you know, within yourself, that no matter what, you cannot settle for this kind of life, that there is more to it.

 

Well this is how i feel...and this is what i fear...i fear that i will never discover myself, my talents, my passion and that my answer to what i want to do will always be "i don't know, but definitely not this what i am doing now".

 

It is difficult to start, when you do not know where to begin…

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*I'm still thinking about how I want to respond to this... but wanted to let you know you're not alone out there*

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*I'm still thinking about how I want to respond to this... but wanted to let you know you're not alone out there*

Thanks...i am not sure if others can relate to this, but it's just some thoughts i kinda had to "let out". In case someone does feel the same way too...

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