KarateKid Posted August 22, 2014 Share Posted August 22, 2014 What I mean is, for example, someone says "I'm having trouble with X and Y side effect of Z medication etc. etc... what do I do?" So someone responds with a suggestion, but I wanna make sure that when I'm responding with a suggestion, it is within the rules... but forgive me if I'm unaware, are there examples in the rules for how to properly suggest something/idea/ etc? without it seeming like you are prescribing, or doing something against the rules? Because I've been struggling a bit trying to make sure what I say is within the rules Well, it was my first time I did an "oops" and I got told to watch out and I apologized and stuff but I wanna make sure I don't do it again or try not to, by having a template to look at. Maybe I'm just being overcautious, but I just thought it would be a good idea. For example: if you want to suggest X, this is an example of how you would say it: (sentence here) If you want to offer advice about Y, this is an example of how you would say it: (sentence here) KK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wooster Posted August 22, 2014 Share Posted August 22, 2014 The best rule is to ALWAYS speak from your own perspective. "I tried X for this and found it to be helpful in the following ways..." "My pdoc and I agreed I would try Y and it was horrible because..." The place where people tend to cross the line is saying "You should try X" or "Ask your doc for a prescription of Y." It's more appropriate to say "This was my experience in a similar situation." Less appropriate to say "You should totally do this thing I did because it helped me." Does that help clarify? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarateKid Posted August 22, 2014 Author Share Posted August 22, 2014 The best rule is to ALWAYS speak from your own perspective. "I tried X for this and found it to be helpful in the following ways..." "My pdoc and I agreed I would try Y and it was horrible because..." The place where people tend to cross the line is saying "You should try X" or "Ask your doc for a prescription of Y." It's more appropriate to say "This was my experience in a similar situation." Less appropriate to say "You should totally do this thing I did because it helped me." Does that help clarify? Yep that helped! This is what I was looking for, thanks Wooster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted August 22, 2014 Share Posted August 22, 2014 Wooster, as always, is 100% correct. The only thing that I would add is that it's a culture we have here. After you are here long enough, you will pick up on it. Just live and learn, and try not to take offense when a mod/admin says something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarateKid Posted August 22, 2014 Author Share Posted August 22, 2014 Wooster, as always, is 100% correct. The only thing that I would add is that it's a culture we have here. After you are here long enough, you will pick up on it. Just live and learn, and try not to take offense when a mod/admin says something. Yea, no I don't take offense, I take it as constructive criticism I just wanna make sure I'm on the right page and Wooster helped clarify 100 %. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wooster Posted August 22, 2014 Share Posted August 22, 2014 *snorts at the idea of "Wooster, as always, is 100% correct.* Glad that was helpful, KarateKid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiaB Posted August 22, 2014 Share Posted August 22, 2014 KarateKid, you're doing fine - I wasn't angry with you on the thread you're referring to, just trying to nudge you in the right direction. Wooster's breakdown of different responses covers it perfectly. As long as you speak from your own experience, you'll be on track, and as jt said, the longer you're here, the more you'll pick up the rhythm of how things work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted August 23, 2014 Share Posted August 23, 2014 If you're not speaking from personal experience, make sure to say "from what I've read" or "from what I understand" and make sure you're able to cite where you've read it if anyone asks you. You don't have to speak 100% from personal experience. We encourage people to do their own reading and research and share what they learn with others here. Always be able to give the source for anything that doesn't come from your personal experience though. Also make sure you know how to tell good sources from crap ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted August 23, 2014 Share Posted August 23, 2014 If you are in a general discussion, Pubmed is your friend. It's the NIH's article library, and you can find articles about different conditions with key words. Sometimes, even when I am pretty certain I know about something I am about to post, I go check Pubmed anyway. And sometimes I am relieved I did so, because I was about to post something untrue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarateKid Posted August 23, 2014 Author Share Posted August 23, 2014 (edited) KarateKid, you're doing fine - I wasn't angry with you on the thread you're referring to, just trying to nudge you in the right direction. Wooster's breakdown of different responses covers it perfectly. As long as you speak from your own experience, you'll be on track, and as jt said, the longer you're here, the more you'll pick up the rhythm of how things work. Yea haha I know, it's a learning experience and yea, as I pick up things, It'll be easier for me to know how to respond properly. If you're not speaking from personal experience, make sure to say "from what I've read" or "from what I understand" and make sure you're able to cite where you've read it if anyone asks you. You don't have to speak 100% from personal experience. We encourage people to do their own reading and research and share what they learn with others here. Always be able to give the source for anything that doesn't come from your personal experience though. Also make sure you know how to tell good sources from crap ones. Will do. If you are in a general discussion, Pubmed is your friend. It's the NIH's article library, and you can find articles about different conditions with key words. Sometimes, even when I am pretty certain I know about something I am about to post, I go check Pubmed anyway. And sometimes I am relieved I did so, because I was about to post something untrue. I'll check it out! Edited August 23, 2014 by KarateKid Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agent99 Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I found this thread very helpful because of the negative responses I've gotten from chat. I do find it in my nature to try to help when it is something that relates to my own experiences. I now know because of this thread how to word it better. Thank you for creating it. I am new and didn't realize that I could've possibly been breaking the rules by trying to relate in a positive nature. I think my upbringing as the problem solver of the family caused me to annoy others if they don't want to hear possible solutions instead of just support. I think I'll understand more as I am in the forum longer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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