BionicMDD Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Can two people with MDD date each other? I am feeling suffocated already by his neediness. Is there a chance this will go away? We get along really well, and neither of us is depressed now. We understand each other like no one else could. What's the general consensus? Any personal experience? This was just a fluke. Neither of us knew the other had MDD. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
revolution724 Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 It depends on the individuals. No two people or relationships are alike, so it's impossible to say categorically that it can't work out. But you are in the best position to assess your own relationship, because you know you and you know him better than any of us do. I think there are quite a few people on this board who are in relationships with other people who have some sort of MI diagnosis. But what works for one person may not for another, or vice versa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teh Gaben Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I don't think the MDD has anything to do with it. You either get on with the person or you don't. All it does is give you one more thing in common, whether you decide to take that as a good thing or a bad thing is up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BionicMDD Posted October 14, 2014 Author Share Posted October 14, 2014 Mine is a situational depression; his is long term. When I told him I was taking anti depressants and made it clear I didn't want anyone else to know, he went straight over to his mother's house and told her. He thinks we are soul mates now and I think I just can't trust him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissaw72 Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 If it were me, and I asked someone to keep something I said quiet, but they went over and told someone right after that anyway, I personally wouldn't want anything to do with them anymore. I wouldn't be able to trust a person like that, and wouldn't even start to get involved in a relationship with that person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MellyDonut Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Well in general yes, two people with depression can date each other. Of course it depends on the individual and such. But I think it can work. I think you may face some challenges that other couples don't. What I have found personally, and I think this is true of any relationship, but especially ones with MI is that communication is key. After one of you has an episode of depression I always find it helpful to sit down and talk about it hen both of you are in a good frame of mind. Talk about what you two can do to help each other. If there were things that were said, understanding the events that happened and trying to find a trigger if there was one. One thing I have found is that when my boyfriend gets depressed and he has a nasty episode, he can get this very blunt, cold, calculating effect. And a lot of times he can be unknowingly hurtful because he is so blunt and he doesn't have any tact. I've learned when not to take these things personally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Equivilency Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I don't think the MDD has anything to do with it. You either get on with the person or you don't. All it does is give you one more thing in common, whether you decide to take that as a good thing or a bad thing is up to you. This^ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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