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I say i worry about the future, isolate myself, sit for the future, i have hobbies(some i can't do cuz i need to drive to the destination and got no car lol.)


I will say what i think of someone if asked, but i don't go around a say it. I do complain about people, but it's more like letting out a shock and disappointment then moving on. I don't complain much about my life except my anxiety attacks and nightmare. I stay to myself and if i don't like what someone does,i just won't associate with the person. 


Holding grudge... I don't think i hold grudges. I feel grudges has anger with it.. and i don't hold the anger. I do not deal with people who i think are just too negative and troublesome.....I'll hold onto the memory of the event that made me realize this is someone i do not want in my life. But, grudge and remember why you don't want someone in your life are two different things.


So yea, i just say i worry about the future, stand still in the present (scared of the future), and Isolate myself. I wonder If those three things are just the byproduct of my Anxiety disorders.


Plus, there are many people that hate their job.... but, they have to keep it to pay the bills or until they find another job/save enough money to quit and find another job.


I think everything on that list is a mixture of byproducts of many disorders/emotions not just unhappiness.

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I will say one thing ... is that life goes by too fast. 


I've learned over time to accept my life, and since doing that I don't have a problem with living the way I do.  I have low stress (usually), am able to sleep a lot.  I do worry about the future, but not the entire future.  Just little things like how I will get around to appts when my mom can't drive me anymore.  My overall future will be what it will be.  I am just doing the best I can, given my life's circumstances.  And it is ok with me.

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