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Hi all, (I don't know if this the right forum - sorry if I messed up)


I've seen my therapist for a year and now he's moving out of the area. I go to a county mental health agency for both therapy and pdoc. When therapist told me about leaving he mentioned that I may want to switch to another therapist there who I know. The two of them run a therapy group that I'm in, so we know each other to an extent. .


What I'm wondering about is if I should make the change now or not. He already has a new job, but has to find a place to live in an area that's hard to find one. So it could be a week from now or months (I guess they're holding the job for him). Also, i've gone through so much crap, that we're just still going through the getting to know you phase + work on dealing with current situations. For that reason I don't want to start all over again. I know getting a new therapist is pretty common, but my situation feels like a side step, so I'm unsure.


What would any of you do?

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That is a tough one. I think if I were in your situation I would make the change now. To me there just doesn't seem like much sense in stretching out a therapeutic relationship that you know is going to end in the near future. Therapy is hard enough without bonds getting broken suddenly and you having to start all over again.

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Hi RD... since your post isn't specifically about bipolar disorder, but rather the general process of "therapist moving; what to do?" I'm going to move it to the therapy section. I suspect you might get a broader audience there.

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I think it depends too on how much closure you need at the end of therapy - might be worth thinking about if you need a few (or more than a few) sessions to "say goodbye".


If not, it might be better to just switch and get started with the new person so that you can get started on getting to a place where you can do longterm work.  Unless there is some goal or therapy that you want to work on with your current person that you think is reasonable to accomplish in the short term, I'd just switch.

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