I Need a Sounding Board PLease

[deeschmee]

I recieve a call from my daughters phone. It was her father asking if I could could come and get her. She calls me one minute later crying very upset and says "Come get me right now! Dad got mad at me and pinned me up against the wall!"
I immediately jump in my car, call  a friend who suggests I stop at the troopers on the way and get an escort. Which I do. They go in and talk to them both and then invite me in. My daughter is 12, hormonal, smart as hell and can cut straight to the bone. She called her father a drunk (which he is) and me a psycho (i guess I am) so he flew into a rage and grabbed her screaming in her face. she said she was scared that she peed her pants.

 

Now shes with me and wont talk about it. We go to counseling tomorow.

 

Did I make a good call?

[AnnaBanana]

I think so. It sounded like a difficult situation and it was better to have a police force there to intercede had things escalated. I think you did it right. Hopefully she'll talk about it with the counselor, but I would be leery of sending her back to her dad's house after that incident.

[deeschmee]

Thank you AnnaBanana. She has a little brother and dads gf she likes to see also. So that makes it tough

[water]

I recieve a call from my daughters phone. It was her father asking if I could could come and get her. She calls me one minute later crying very upset and says "Come get me right now! Dad got mad at me and pinned me up against the wall!"

I immediately jump in my car, call  a friend who suggests I stop at the troopers on the way and get an escort. Which I do. They go in and talk to them both and then invite me in. My daughter is 12, hormonal, smart as hell and can cut straight to the bone. She called her father a drunk (which he is) and me a psycho (i guess I am) so he flew into a rage and grabbed her screaming in her face. she said she was scared that she peed her pants.

 

Now shes with me and wont talk about it. We go to counseling tomorow.

 

Did I make a good call?

 

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry.

 

YES!  You did the very best you could in a very difficult situation.

Your daughter is with YOU. 

That is most important, Her safety.

You can deal with her anger later.

[deeschmee]

Thank you. A friend of mine minimized it and said when she was caught with a boy in her room and her father choked her her mother never called the cops.

Now my daughters fathers gf cancelled her sons, my daughters little brothers birthday and may move out