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You are respected as a human being. We can respect you as a human being and still find that some of your behaviour is unacceptable. You are being told, with all due respect, what is and what is not okay.

If you are a grown up you will find that acting as one goes a long way to being understood as such. If you don't know how to act like a grown up well, you've gotten some advice here on this thread about it. Your therapist can definitely clarify for you as well.

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You are respected as a human being. We can respect you as a human being and still find that some of your behaviour is unacceptable. You are being told, with all due respect, what is and what is not okay.

If you are a grown up you will find that acting as one goes a long way to being understood as such. If you don't know how to act like a grown up well, you've gotten some advice here on this thread about it. Your therapist can definitely clarify for you as well.

 

Here's what happened.  First, I explain myself in great detail about how pleasure is the most important thing for me in life.  Then others give advice.  I then respond to the types of advice that ask what medication I'm on and what caused my anhedonia.  Then there are those who tell me to accept my anhedonia and find other good things in my life.  But like I said, for anyone to tell me that would be an insult and a mockery as I clearly already stated in my opening post here.  Therefore, no one should give me such advice.  Otherwise, I will become psychotic.  I have every right to be enraged towards such people since they have belittled my values, beliefs, and my anhedonia and they just expect me to live a life that is truly nothing good at all without my pleasure.

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So, when given advice you do not agree with, you are fully justified in behaving abusively towards other people?

Do you behave this way in real life?

Edited by Stickler

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So, when given advice you do not agree with, you are fully justified in behaving abusively towards other people?

Do you behave this way in real life?

 

You have to understand here that my pleasure is the one and only good thing in my life and nothing else.  If I told you to accept a loss in which you have lost the one and only true good thing in your life and that there would be no way for you to move on in life and find other good things in life, then you would have every right to lash out at me and I would feel your actions would be well-justified.

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He is getting his pleasure..IMO

Probably.

I hear opinions I find infuriating all the time.

That does not give me a legitimate reason to lash out at the person I vehemently disagree with.

I do not view your behavior as justified, sir.

Too, any suggestions we've given seem to be smacked down. Engaging with you has been pointless.

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He is getting his pleasure..IMO

Probably.

I hear opinions I find infuriating all the time.

That does not give me a legitimate reason to lash out at the person I vehemently disagree with.

I do not view your behavior as justified, sir.

 

 

Now if they were just the types of people who were trying to help at first and don't understand your loss and don't understand that what you had in life was the one and only truly good thing in your life, then I would say you wouldn't have the right to lash out towards that person.  But if you have clearly told this person that what you lost was the only good thing in your life and that said person insists on trying to make you accept that loss and find other things in life of good value anyway, then you would have the right to lash out towards that person.

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Enough of this. You do NOT take advice that is given to you in good faith.

 

Death wishing is NEVER acceptable. NEVER. I'm closing this thread.

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