utherwerldgerl Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I have a dilemma: My boyfriend wants me to work, but I'm in school full time, schizophrenic, and my psychiatrist thinks working is a really bad idea. In fact, she said she was upset with me that I was considering working again, because every time I do, it triggers psychotic symptoms. I need to work. I need the money, even though I have disability. Or at least that's what my boyfriend insists. I don't know if I should resent him for pushing me (when I've explained what my doctor said), or push myself harder to succeed in employment. Any suggestions? Experiences? -utherwerldgerl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SchizoHH Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I am currently experiencing this with my husband. He keeps pushing me to work and make more money. He doesn't understand how difficult it is. I would listen to your doctor. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissaw72 Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I agree ... I would listen to your DR also. Could your boyfriend go to an appt with you so your pdoc (psychiatrist) can explain to him why you can't work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larkspur Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Is this the same boyfriend who spends your disability money on shit for himself? I think I remember something about an Xbox... uther, stay the course, listen to pdoc, and don't force yourself to work before you're ready. Healing takes time, and if you try to rush it, you'll end up worse off than before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarn Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Listen to your pdoc, I think. I know how stressful work can be and your pdoc understands the medical side of it. Can your boyfriend come to an appointment with your pdoc so he can listen to their thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stickler Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 (edited) I think your Pdoc is probably giving you good advice. School is one job. Major mental illness is another job Therefore you already have 2 jobs. ...Wondering about what Larkspur mentioned. If he doesn't have a job but is nagging you to get one? Um...that's kind of a financial abuser sort of thing. Financial abuse usually comes along with other sorts of mind games, but I guess what you'd look for is a constant negativity and criticism out of the person, that gradually gets worse over time? Nothing's ever good enough for them, or small enough for them to not jump on you about? ...Hey, I don't know, I'm not there. Just asking. Edited April 22, 2015 by Stickler Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonderful.Cheese Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 I agree with stickler. You have 2 jobs already. Managing a severe MI is definitely a job. Focus on your school and finishing your college degree. I think you should listen to your pdoc. That's what I'd do anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
San Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 I'd listen to your pdoc. They know more about your MI than your boyfriend would, IMO. You've got a lot on your plate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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