madmax15 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 (edited) Seroquel XR was making me very tired. It made me go for breaks at work and then not return because I was too tired. I did this about 20 times. My boss told me to look up the acronym FONC. And told me next time someone annoys me say THAT to them. My work mates seemed very upset at me. I assume it was because I would go for breaks and not return. I had that job for two years. This sucks. Edited May 30, 2015 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokendishes Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 I agree that it was a choice to not return to work, but there are times the mental illness and the drugs are too much to be able to function...and what do you do? It's not like you an just take time off randomly like that to get some rest. I also lost my job last year and haven't worked since, due to a chronic physical illness in addition to my crazy. I'm not sure where you are but in the states, if you have a definite diagnosis you're in better shape work-wise. I used all my time with my IP's and dealing with deaths in the family--so when I got physically sick, there was no time left...but that didn't stop me from leaving early many times to go to a doctor or the hospital. If I had a diagnosis back then, I'd have been protected job-wise...but it took the better part of a year to figure out what was wrong with me and by then it was too late. I had doctors and hospital notes and shrink notes, etc for every single absence or early-quit but it didn't matter because I hadn't been formally diagnosed with something that the law would considered 'protected'. If I had been aware of their displeasure with me, I would have had my shrink write something so I could be excused for mental health reasons--I def had enough of them. But I was so very very sick I couldn't think straight on how to keep my job. I know it sucks btut maybe it's for the best in the long-term. I would never have gotten better staying at that job and trying to fight a chronic debilitating illness--I'd prob be dead now. I do not miss the stress or misery of the job one little bit, and I think being away has helped my health instead of make me more ill. I hope that you'll be able to recover from this loss and find a better, more suitable job soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 I agree that it was a choice to not return to work, but there are times the mental illness and the drugs are too much to be able to function...and what do you do? It's not like you an just take time off randomly like that to get some rest. What do you do? You get a note from your doctor explaining your absence and possibly arrange for some accommodations before you fail to come back from lunch 20 times. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Share Posted May 30, 2015 I kept thinking it wasn't such a big deal because there's other people working there. So what's one person? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larkspur Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 That attitude will not result in gainful employment anywhere ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gearhead Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 What's one person? They wouldn't have hired you if they didn't need you to be doing something there. That makes you part of a team. If part of the team doesn't work, it puts undue pressure and work on the rest of the people there. Another thing that needs to happen is that you need to talk to your doctor about finding a medication that won't sedate you so badly. I felt that bad when I took Geodon. Never could get over the sedation. It's not any way to live your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissaw72 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 It's too late for this time but when you get another job you should get a note from your pdoc about working reduced hours or something along those lines. I've had notes in the past that said I needed to work 1/2 days for several weeks. ^^I agree with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokendishes Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 I agree that it was a choice to not return to work, but there are times the mental illness and the drugs are too much to be able to function...and what do you do? It's not like you an just take time off randomly like that to get some rest. What do you do? You get a note from your doctor explaining your absence and possibly arrange for some accommodations before you fail to come back from lunch 20 times. I get your point, but I'm saying in my own case--as well as maybe the OP, when you're sick--whether it's MI or physical, you're not thinking clearly. I'd never had cause to leave work before I got chronically sick--if I had a bad I day, I'd take more meds and carry on...I think this is something that woudl be useful to know before it happens--knowing that a shrink or doc could write something to explain absences. I'm glad to know that info now, although its too late for my job. I think though if OP truly didn't care regardless, it woudn't have mattered what the doctors were writing because OP would have just left whenever... Just my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted May 31, 2015 Author Share Posted May 31, 2015 (edited) Actually I left something out of my story. I actually rang up after my break and told the boss I couldn't return. If that makes a difference to your responses. Edited May 31, 2015 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissaw72 Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 You mean not return to work that day, or not return to work forever? What was your bosses response? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Did your boss ask you why you wouldn't be returning that day? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted May 31, 2015 Author Share Posted May 31, 2015 You mean not return to work that day, or not return to work forever? What was your bosses response? Not return to work that day. He just said "Okay thanks for volunteering" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Not return to work that day. He just said "Okay thanks for volunteering" What? This is a volunteer job? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted May 31, 2015 Author Share Posted May 31, 2015 (edited) Not return to work that day. He just said "Okay thanks for volunteering" What? This is a volunteer job? Yeah does it matter? Edited May 31, 2015 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted May 31, 2015 Author Share Posted May 31, 2015 (edited) I meant does it matter if it was a paid job or not if I wasn't returning from lunch breaks. Edited May 31, 2015 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Regardless of whether you're getting paid or volunteering your presence is important and counted upon. Regardless of whether it's paid or volunteering you were given a task to do and people around you are counting on you to get that task done: because you were not returning to complete the task someone else had to do it. Would you like it if someone said that they would do something and then didn't show up? That's what you did to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Not return to work that day. He just said "Okay thanks for volunteering" What? This is a volunteer job? Yeah does it matter? It matters to me and to a lot of people who took time to respond because we thought you lost your livelihood. But I agree with Rosie. Regardless of whether it was a paid position or a volunteer position, not coming back to work after going on lunch break will never be looked upon kindly. Even though it was a volunteer position, those people were counting on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokendishes Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Not return to work that day. He just said "Okay thanks for volunteering" What? This is a volunteer job? Yeah does it matter? It matters to me and to a lot of people who took time to respond because we thought you lost your livelihood. But I agree with Rosie. Regardless of whether it was a paid position or a volunteer position, not coming back to work after going on lunch break will never be looked upon kindly. Even though it was a volunteer position, those people were counting on you. This!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reverse The Polarity Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 It sounds like you are pretty sheltered. One less person = one less person to complete the team's daily required tasks. Which means others have to pick up the slack, on top of doing their assigned tasks. It's very annoying when you suddenly have all these other tasks to do. Where I work, we notice if someone is taking 5mins extra break or turn up to work 5mins late and they get told. I've lost [paid] jobs from being late too often, this is how I learnt the hard way that people expect you to be punctual and to turn up when you are supposed to be around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Share Posted June 6, 2015 (edited) Well shit I just started this new job. I do my best to get there 15 minutes early before they open. I take a 20 minute lunch break instead of 30 mins. but yesterday I worked half the day and had a psychotic episode. I told my boss I was "unwell" and left early. Now I plan to get a letter from my doctor explaining my illness. I don't want a repeat of before. I don't want leaving early once turn into leaving early 20 times! At least I'm trying... Edited June 6, 2015 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted June 6, 2015 Share Posted June 6, 2015 Well shit I just started this new job. I do my best to get there 15 minutes early before they open. I take a 20 minute lunch break instead of 30 mins. but yesterday I worked half the day and had a psychotic episode. I told my boss I was "unwell" and left early. Now I plan to get a letter from my doctor explaining my illness. I don't want a repeat of before. I don't want leaving early once turn into leaving early 20 times! At least I'm trying... Good for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Share Posted June 7, 2015 I can't believe I had a psychotic episode. I was taking responsibility for my behaviour and trying to be a team player. I can't afford to stuff this up again. It's so hard to get work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Share Posted June 7, 2015 No the one I had yesterday was the first in five years. The people I was working with are like there because they did something wrong and the court sent them there to do so many hours instead of going to jail. I can't stand rude people and these guys are covered in tatts ect. but you know what at least I can say I tried. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 No the one I had yesterday was the first in five years. The people I was working with are like there because they did something wrong and the court sent them there to do so many hours instead of going to jail. I can't stand rude people and these guys are covered in tatts ect. but you know what at least I can say I tried. I am wondering if it was such a good idea to rush into getting another job (is this volunteer?) . It sounds like you handled everything well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Share Posted June 7, 2015 Honestly I think I was being bullied but the schizophrenia made it seem worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissaw72 Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 Stress can make everything worse, IMO. So the bullying might not have helped that, and maybe contributed to the psychotic break. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 Um... this may not seem like a big deal to you but it is a HUGE deal to everyone else and might be a large part of why you struggle relating to people so much.You called this "I JUST lost my job" - but later on you mentioned that all of this happened five years ago. So if it happened five years ago it didn't JUST happen. Leading people to believe that it JUST happened causes them to respond a certain way - they would respond differently if they knew that this happened five years ago.So you lied. People remember that they've been lied to. I'm sure that there are many people around you who, having been lied to, are now causing problems for you in your social sphere. If you don't want people to bully you - don't lie to them. I know that it feels safer to lie. It's something that I struggle with as well. But don't do it. It makes things harder for you in the long run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Share Posted June 7, 2015 I'm sorry you misunderstood what I said. I meant it's the first psychotic episode I've had in five years. Not the job. It was a horrifying experience. I want an apology please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koa Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) Madmax, I worked with someone who could not do her job due to health problems... she had COPD and could not walk more than 10 feet before getting winded and having to stop. She was a sweet lady but my coworkers tended to really resent her because she wasn't helpful and that meant that they had to do more work. She was able to drive without getting winded, but she complained about even doing that... She was eventually let go but fortunately the company found her another job within the company. However I wonder if your coworkers resented all the breaks because it seemed like you were cheating the clock while they were having to do more work to compensate?The people I was working with are like there because they did something wrong and the court sent them there to do so many hours instead of going to jail. I can't stand rude people and these guys are covered in tatts ect. but you know what at least I can say I tried.I don't know what your coworkers were actually like, but I'm not sure this disdainful attitude towards your coworkers helped anything. It sounds like you look down on them because of their history or appearances and if that came across it might not have helped your relationship with them at all. After all, there are people that think mentally ill people are like that because they did something wrong, that they look funny, act inappropriate and just need to get a job and pull themselves up by their bootstraps. If the seroquel is affecting you that much I think you need to call and talking about getting a med change/adjustment. It sounds like it is really impairing your ability to function.But yeah, if it is a volunteer job you should just look for another place to volunteer here the hours are more flexible. There is no shortage of places looking for free laborers. Edited June 14, 2015 by koa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Share Posted December 13, 2015 (edited) I'm sorry I can't stop thinking about this. They never actually told me the reason why they fired me. At the time I didn't have a clue? I was like WTF why are my co-workers being shitty to me. The "not coming back" from a break thing was all I could think of. I did this over a two year period. Also I would take extra long breaks. Is it REALLY that bad? Edited December 13, 2015 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Yes. You really can get fired for being unreliable. Especially over the course of years. It REALLY is that bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
water Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 5 hours ago, madmax15 said: I'm sorry I can't stop thinking about this. They never actually told me the reason why they fired me. At the time I didn't have a clue? I was like WTF why are my co-workers being shitty to me. The "not coming back" from a break thing was all I could think of. I did this over a two year period. Also I would take extra long breaks. Is it REALLY that bad? If you were an incredible employee with an amazing work ethic who helps everyone, gets to work on time, never leaves early, works on vacations, volunteers extra time to make up for the late break returns who told their boss they would be returning late from breaks because of this or that reason, then maybe they would have handled it differently. But probably not. Let it go now. You are working again, right? EVERYONE is fired or let go from a job at some point in their life. It is very hard. But moving on to the next one is the only solution. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Yes, it is bad. I had a job where I called in sick a lot and I didn't think it was a problem (I had the sick days), but I ended up getting a warning about it. Hopefully, you have learned from this and are more reliable. I know I did. That is all you can do. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Gah, you sound so unreliable, whether or not that is how you meant to be. Always return from breaks. Don't take extra-long breaks without the okay of your manager. These are basics. Oh, and just so you know, just because you ask doesn't mean your manager has to okay it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted December 30, 2015 Author Share Posted December 30, 2015 Is it worse than not turning up to work at all? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wooster Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Both not showing up for work and not coming back from breaks as well as taking longer than scheduled breaks demonstrate lack of reliability. when someone hires you, they count on you being available when you are scheduled to work. the only job I have been fired from was because I made a poor choice to not come back from a trip when I was scheduled to work. I didn't show up and I didn't call in. I was summarily fired. It was fair that happened because where I worked had to scramble to find someone to cover for me, and customers who expected the business to be open were let down. It was a good life lesson for me. have you considered taking a work readiness or job skills class to help learn some of these basics? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 What you're doing when you work an hourly job is selling hours of your life to whoever will pay the most. Once you sign an employment contract, you are obligated to give them your time in exchange for whatever pay was agreed upon. If you don't like this, get a degree or find some other way to work yourself into a salaried position that will have more flexible hours. Unless you are self-employed, you won't keep a job for long if you don't do what you signed up to do though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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