madmax15 Posted December 22, 2015 Share Posted December 22, 2015 At my old job I was being friendly to a new worker. Then someone said to me "You're not here to make friends. You're here to work". Mmm I thought okay you make friends here too. You even have their phone numbers? WTF. Anyway I ignored what he said and continued with this behaviour. Then they started to call me "Nigel" "Nigel no friends". It blows... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted December 22, 2015 Share Posted December 22, 2015 I've been known to say exactly that at work. It's not literal (you're allowed to have friends at work.) What it means is "stop talking! Get to work!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted December 22, 2015 Author Share Posted December 22, 2015 But they do the exact same thing? They even share personal information such as they're going to get married. Or their wife is pregnant and deciding on a name for the baby... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterRosie Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 They might have a different work ethic than you; some people are able to work and to talk at the same time while others can't. Or it could be that your work ethic is seen to suck since you take extra-long breaks or skip days. Perhaps these people don't and so they are allowed an extra five minutes to chat. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancesintherain Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 Also, sometimes it's purely a matter of timing. If I've got something major to get done, someone stepping into my office to complain about something/chat about life/etc would really, really irritate me because usually I'm already terrified about meeting the deadline. This is regardless of whether, on a different day, I could spend 30 minutes talking to this person about anything and everything. Not saying that's definitively the case, but it's a possibility. I will admit that if I'm in the situation described above, my response is "I'm sorry, I really can't talk right now because I've got X due in Y hours", rather than saying "this isn't for making friends." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmax15 Posted January 3, 2016 Author Share Posted January 3, 2016 (edited) Okay they gossip among eachother. They interact outside of work too. It's pretty clear friendships are being formed here. I try to do the exact same thing and get told for it. What gives? Edited January 3, 2016 by madmax15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted January 7, 2016 Share Posted January 7, 2016 Did I just see a goalpost move? Again? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 If people were calling me names, I wouldn't want to be friends with them. To be honest, I'm perfectly fine not having friends. I realize that I'm the exception rather than the rule and that it seems that most people need friends, but I still would not seek to be friends with such persons who were calling me names. Yes, they do suck. My advice would be to find your friends elsewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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