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Pretty sure I have Tryich (pulling pubic hair). Thoughts?

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Oh my god, I've found My People.  Hi, crazy boards. This is my first post.

I've been a picker since my early teens - due to Hashimoto's and general Bad Genes™ I've always had dark, coarse wiskers grow on my chin and neck - not like beard level, but enough that if I didn't pluck I'd definitely look like I was fighting a case of mange.  I was always always ALWAYS picked on by schoolmates because I had bad teenage acne, which was worse because my hands were always on my chin feeling for the slightest indication of a dreaded hair poking out.  If I felt something I would dig my face bloody with my nails, or later with tweezers. Now, in my 30's, I've dug little pits into my face to try and get at the 'root' of the problem (ha...)

My mother always scolded me for this picking, often in the same breath as she would sit there and do the same thing, picking her own chin hairs.  I'm certain the hair thing has been proven geneticly tied, but honestly I think the OCD characteristics related to this kind of behaviour might be to... But that's musings for another time.

As I got older the acne has all but stopped, but the wiskers are there with a passion. I pluck daily, sometimes for over an hour at a time.  It almost always ends with multiple bloody messy spots from digging.

But... That's not actually what this post is about! 

You see, recently a new plucking problem has surfaced. 

Slight TMI warning

Basically I've shaved my pubic area since around the age of 16.  In the past year I've decided to stop because I'm prne to rasorburn and that's just no fun. But, as the hair grew longer... Now I literally can not stop pulling it out.

 It almost always happens while I'm laying in bed reading, my hand just unconsciously roots out a certain coarse hair - it's always the ones that feel different - and then I end up yanking it with nails or tweezers after spending a short while trying to just rip it out. I am also prone to taking several hairs and twisting them up tight and just like... Tearing the whole wad out, even if that means keeping it taunt with one hand and using a finger to leverage each hair out separately.

This has become so bad that the entire side of my pubic mound is effectively BALD. To hide it from my husband I went out and bought an epilator and ended up using that to methodically rip every darn hair down there out.

I dont know if this is the 'healthiest' solution, but I sure am open to suggestions. For now I reckon if I can get on schedule with the epilator I can beat my subconscious before it decides to walk my hand down there looking for some hair to pull.




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I have this issue too. Wow, I keep thinking I'm the only one with this problem, since it feels so weird to talk about.

I can't tell you how many times I've accidentally injured myself plucking pubic hairs. A lot of the time plucking them out results in scabs forming there, and then I end up picking those off too.. even on my stomach, I spent a good 20 or so minutes pulling out a stray dark hair which resulted in a MASSIVE scab forming. Which ended up with me picking it until it scarred, and now there's a massive purplish circle-shaped scar on my stomach. The ride never ends.

My best advice (in my opinion, since this kind of works with me) is to trim it down with scissors rather than shaving, since shaving will almost always result in ingrown hairs/annoying bumps that I'll end up picking at with a pair of tweezers. Another solution? Ignore it. If it starts to irritate you, take a shower. I find that makes it less annoying for me. I'm not sure if this would help you, but it's sort of helped me. Like, of course, here I am still plucking.. in the end, it's not that big of a deal for me, but it might be for you!

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I mean, honestly the pubic hair pulling isn't /that/ much of a problem for me since I've found the epilating solution, but obviously the chin picking / hair pulling there definitely still is.  The worst part of it is that my husband nags me about it and makes me feel awful and I don't even know how to tell him that like... I can't stand it.  I can't stand being able to feel it there.

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