How to deal with family members that didn't support me and now are showing symptoms of MI?

[uncomfortable thoughts]

How to deal with family members that didn't support me and now are showing symptoms of MI?

Yep.

I can't get a break.

I'm pissed because all the 'stuff' that I heard keeps popping in my head and I want to say things back or 'teach a lessons' but would be much nicer if I just support, like I wanted to be supported.

This particular family member said to me:

"I don't want to hear about your problems and your medications." and other stuff, a bunch.

I keep remembering those things and I'm not all stable so I get irritated by this.

The problem is, once again I'm without PDOC, FUCK THIS HEALTH CARE.

I have to do plenty of things on my own and this family member now is treated like a child.

ARGH. FUCK. FUCK FUCK.

 

[WinterRosie]

That sucks. Families tend to get into patterns of "the sick one" or "the scapegoat" and then that person falls ill it tends to be ignored, or they get blamed for it, or shamed for it. But if someone else ends up in that role, it's seen as undeserved, or unfair, and they tend to get kid gloves.

It's super-unfair all around, and it's very cruel and unjust. Maybe, since everyone wants to support the newly ill family member you could capitalize on that by 'borrowing' all of their research on pdocs and using it to get one for yourself?

 

[uncomfortable thoughts]

1 hour ago, WinterRosie said:

That sucks. Families tend to get into patterns of "the sick one" or "the scapegoat" and then that person falls ill it tends to be ignored, or they get blamed for it, or shamed for it. But if someone else ends up in that role, it's seen as undeserved, or unfair, and they tend to get kid gloves.

You described what happened and I'm not dealing with it the best that I can, a part of it was that yesterday I discovered that 'I lost' once again 'my' PDOC, there's the part that I'm withdrawing from benzo, the part that I have, like everybody else, a bunch of thing in my plate to handle and there's a part of me that want a fucking riot or revenge.

Well, I guess I'll have to pause on the benzo withdrawal.

1 hour ago, WinterRosie said:

It's super-unfair all around, and it's very cruel and unjust. Maybe, since everyone wants to support the newly ill family member you could capitalize on that by 'borrowing' all of their research on pdocs and using it to get one for yourself?

Thanks.

I spent this morning reaching the health care plan and after a hour I found myself another PDOC for next month.

I didn't feel the relief from it yet.

First because this PDOC can also be 'fired' since my health care was bought by another 'share' or 'company' and my health care ins't the same as this person's health care.

 

This economy is screwing everyone's up.

I already posted here in family feud about my 'soon to be homeless' and this is a real projection that not only me but another student from the same college that I went shared, but my family doesn't feel this way.

Sigh.

This is another issue that I'm finding a solution for at least it seems that this is just a bump in the road but I'm PISSED, ruined my plans for today.

I already had to take this family member to hospital this week.

At the beginning of this year, while very sick I had to take care of my father and the lists goes on.

I DON'T HAVE THE ROOM TO IMPROVE.

THIS PLACE IS TOXIC AS IT GETS. (could be worst)

 

Have to use my tools and keep on moving.

FUCK.

 

 

 

Edited October 26, 2016 by uncomfortable thoughts

[uncomfortable thoughts]

Well,

I dealt with it by telling not to the person in crises but someone close to this person what I felt about it.

I did that to explain my irritated state.

I'm feeling better.

I want to help so I asked for patience so I could do it.

I'm still angry because I had plans... 

I intend to do it tomorrow, I can't sacrifice my own health, none would benefit from that.

 

Edited October 26, 2016 by uncomfortable thoughts