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How can I stop my partner worrying about me!?

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Afternoon/Morning/Evening Guys,

It's been a long time since I last posted on here and things have been really manageable which is great but I recently am finding myself coming out with some rather 'irrational' things that scares my partner (bit of background; we've been together 3 years, are engaged and he is usually absolutely amazing at supporting me with depression, having experienced it himself first hand)

 

Recently, thanks to the stress of work, i've been finding I'm saying progressively more irrational things that seem totally rational at the time (apart from a tiny bit of me that feels it's odd). To give you an example it was really windy the other day and I thought the air/wind was angry ghosts and if I breathed them in then I would become possessed by them and I tried to cover my partners mouth with his hat to help him. It was at that point he wondered wtf I was doing so explained and he seemed very worried.

 

The second time I felt like my breathing was being restricted ( I had a tight necklace on at the time which looking back was probably the cause of the feeling). I panicked and asked him for a pen as I felt that I needed to stab my neck to create a air hole to breathe. 

 

Looking back I can understand how ridiculous this all sounds but at the time it felt real. I know  I will never act on these, as my other half calls them "silly thoughts" so I want to reassure my partner of this and have done but I feel I need to say more. 

 

I also asked him if I should go to the Dr's about it but he is worried they would section me. As i'm in the UK it's easy to reassure him that that is highly unlikely due to the massive bed shortage in the UK and what I didn't say, the number of times I've been much much worse and very ill and been turned away from A&E with a vallium or three.

 

Sorry for ranting, so the crux of this is, how do you help your loved ones to stop worrying!? 

 

Thanks for reading this, I really appreciate that you took time out to read it all.

 

Thanks again!

TOLBY

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34 minutes ago, The one lurking behind you said:

Sorry for ranting, so the crux of this is, how do you help your loved ones to stop worrying!? 

You really can't do much about your partner worrying.....He is worried because he's concerned about you and he loves you.

What could possibly help is some couple's therapy, so he could better understand what's going on with you........That would be my best suggestion.....

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When I first started dating my fiancee, I had some similar beliefs. At one point I told her I had wings. At another, I was convinced that nothing existed outside of the room we were in. That reality stopped at the door jam. She worried, just like your partner is. Having someone worry about you, for a lot of us, feels awful. But it's okay. It means that he loves you. You would probably worry about him, if your situations were reversed, right?

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On 1/18/2017 at 5:07 PM, The one lurking behind you said:

I also asked him if I should go to the Dr's about it but he is worried they would section me. As i'm in the UK it's easy to reassure him that that is highly unlikely due to the massive bed shortage in the UK and what I didn't say, the number of times I've been much much worse and very ill and been turned away from A&E with a vallium or three.

Sorry for ranting, so the crux of this is, how do you help your loved ones to stop worrying!? 

Thanks for reading this, I really appreciate that you took time out to read it all.

Thanks again!

TOLBY

So you have a history of psychosis and are saying bizarre/irrational things and your fiance is getting worried? It seems that his worry is justified. If you have a Therapist or Pdoc maybe you can bring him along to see your doctors opinion on the matter for advice on what he should watch for or do? I don't know how it works in the UK, but I doubt they would section you or make you go to the hospital (unless you were actively suicidal). Not enough room/beds.

I would also be grateful that you have a fiance that cares so much about your well being. Many people don't and some have a spouse that just ignores them.

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It is hard for others not to worry, especially when we are symptomatic. I like the idea of bringing him to an appt if they could explain anything to him. I had that with my mother-in-law but i am in the US.

Your dx is depression? Is it psychotic depression?

Maybe you could find a book or other types of info for him. We can be scared of things we don't understand.

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