Guest let's keep this anonymous, s Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Is this normal? :embarassed: I met this guy, and we had a couple pseudo-dates together (long story). Anyway, after we spent some time hanging out, we finally talked about whether we should let things go anywhere. After a lot of flirting and talking and stuff, we held hands, left the place where we were hanging out, and eventually hooked up. He had been excited for a while when we were just talking, and he told me later that, when we held hands, he came. It was pretty obvious when we were hooking up, but it hadn't occurred to me until he said that's what had happened. I guess I just thought it was sweat or a lot of precum or something. Anyway, guys, has that ever happened to you? Is this at all normal? Some of you may have heard me mentioning this story in another thread, but please don't say who I am if you figure it out. Also, mods, if you think this topic is inappropriate, feel free to delete it. I will understand completely. Just thought I'd ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylvia Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Ask Bubbles the Chimp - he'll know. B) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jemini Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Never happened to me and doesn't sound all that normal, but certainly a compliment of sorts. I'm not a doctor, but he sounds like he might be a little high strung. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylvia Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Or hasn't been with a woman in a VERY long time, but I'm not a man. Just an obsevation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celestia Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Or hasn't been with a woman in a VERY long time, but I'm not a man. Just an obsevation. <{POST_SNAPBACK}>That was my first thought. But, true confession time? I had a "contact" orgasm on time when performing a certain sexual act on my boyfriend (who I was, and unfortunately still am, very in love with). But he was so into it, I got off without being touched, except for me doing unto him. It was crazy. But good. That's my only experience like that. And I was not on ectasy either. In fact, I'm such an old head, I never did ecstasy or smoked crack. Not that I'm sorry, I'm wigged out enuf. So, there's a chick's POV. Guys are more prone to it though. I have to say, TMI, I cant stand Premature Ejaculation. It makes the selfish girl in my crazy. And unless he's young, few can rise to the occassion quickly enough. That's one nice thing about having a bf on ADs...they dont come for a long time, if at all without excessive effort. Okay, TMI, TMI... Suze Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylvia Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Threadjack Im always wondering is cum a noun, and to come a verb. I prefer come, as cum sounds.....sticky, and icky, and Penthouse-ish. Sorry. Syl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maddy Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I've gone out with 2 guys that have had this happen to them on their first date with me. And they had no problems with premature ejactulation and they weren't high-strung, just really excited and nervous and neither of them were young. (one was 29 at the time the other was in his late 30's) Everyone is different and have different things going on with them. Who's to say what defines "normal" or "abnormal"? But then again I did score a 29 on my purity test...so YMMV. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jadegreendiva Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I'd have to agree with Maddy. It's hard (hahaha - sorry, that's the pervert in me) to define what is "normal" and "abnormal" when it comes (again hehehe) to men. As an admitted former slut, I can't say than any of the two of the over 70+ guys I've "known" have been the same, sexually. And yes, I've known a guy, that if you say the right things to him, or excite him enough, would have an experience that your friend did. It does seem that he's into you sexually, however. Otherwise, why would he get excited? But I'm just a girl A guy may have another thought about this subject! Jade Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirMarshall Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 A classic case documented many years ago in psychology literature was that of a woman who could reach orgasm simply by nibbling on her ear lobe. Sex is all between the ears. Physical contact is not strictly required. (Though actually you DID hold hands). Look at it this way, you excite him, no dispute. A.M. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest same anonymous person Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Thanks for your responses. I really appreciate this. For a variety of other reasons, I have reason to suspect that this guy may have bisexual tendencies. Does this hand-holding excitement rule out any gay leanings? In other words, if he's excited enough by me that he came from us holding hands, is it possible that he's also into men? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celestia Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Threadjack Im always wondering is cum a noun, and to come a verb. I prefer come, as cum sounds.....sticky, and icky, and Penthouse-ish. Sorry. Syl <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Right on sister girl, I come came, came, came, came, came...curses! I oculd just kill that man for being such a good lay. The only exception I make to come v cum thing is Match.cum, what a joke. I actually had a Planeitiean (sorry for spelling and sorrier sill if there are any among us) wanting to date me. I don't know why I attract kooks. Kooks, David Bowie (who slept with Mick Jaggar btw, for you young 'uns he belongs with Keith Richards in the Rolling Stones). Charlie Watts always was and will be the coolest of the Stones. I think Mick is gross. Without further ado, Kooks, which I related to so much in high school and still do. Will you stay in our lovers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Becca Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Thanks for your responses. I really appreciate this. For a variety of other reasons, I have reason to suspect that this guy may have bisexual tendencies. Does this hand-holding excitement rule out any gay leanings? In other words, if he's excited enough by me that he came from us holding hands, is it possible that he's also into men? Yeah, that's always a possibility. Like Saturnine, I can get there without physical contact. But I'm still into men and women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CraZgrrl Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I got off without being touched, except for me doing unto him. It was crazy. But good. That's my only experience like that. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I can vouch for the fact that this is definately possible as it happens to me quite regularly. However I am very easily aroused and cum rather quickly. (I know really TMI) I don't see why it would be any different for a guy. I don't think it makes him any less bisexual either. If he was claiming to be strictly gay you may have a case, but most likely the same could have happened if he was holding hands with a guy he really liked. Take it as a compliment. It means he thinks your really hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 If you're curious about what turns him on, why not ask him? Most men I know are willing to talk about him, and then you'd know what was 'normal' for him. Sexuality is such a weird and wonderful thing, I doubt that there are overall norms to be honest, I think our sexualities are as unique as we are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naeblis Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 sounds odd to me. i'm with the theory about it having been a while. or silk boxers? what strikes me odd is why he would tell you.....? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest anonymous girl Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 He told me because...ok, TMI again: I was performing a certain sexual act on him, and it was taking forever, and my neck and jaw were both tired, and I asked him if he had taken care of business earlier that day. He said no, but that he came earlier when we held hands. /TMI I might post about this on the GLBT thread, but here's a question for the gay guys: given that he was so excited by holding hands with me, is it possible that he's not into women? Or, at least, that he's mostly into men? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylvia Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Nah, just sounds like he needs to get his organ tuned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Captain Anonymous Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 A girl can be a captain, right? Sylvia, your post was too funny. This guy is an organist. Like, in church and stuff. Hahahaha! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylvia Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 You're kidding....who would have guessed? Where's the fucking rabbit when you need him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 You know that someone an enjoy sex without having an orgasm, right? I don't being gay is his problem, he is probably smart enough to sense that you aren't having sex with him for the simple joy of it, but you have a whole load of expectations, and that is knocking his confidence. Reverse the situation, how comfortable would you feel if he was analysing your every sexual move and asking strangers if you were normal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest still anonymous Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 You know that someone an enjoy sex without having an orgasm, right? I don't being gay is his problem, he is probably smart enough to sense that you aren't having sex with him for the simple joy of it, but you have a whole load of expectations, and that is knocking his confidence. Reverse the situation, how comfortable would you feel if he was analysing your every sexual move and asking strangers if you were normal? It's not that I think he's abnormal; I just think it was a strange thing, and I was wondering if it happened to other guys or not. We have hooked up a couple times since then, and everything was fine. It's hard to keep doing this without explaining more of the situation, and I can't really do that without making it obvious who I am. Anyway, I'm just going to leave this alone. I'm not analyzing his every sexual move. I guess I'm just trying to figure out if he doesn't want a relationship with me because there's something wrong with me, or if it's because he's gay. I'm sorry I came across as being so rude. I'm really not like that at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jemini Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Just to throw in, it's not as if the only two options are that there is something wrong with you or he's gay. Chemistry is really complicated. Organic chemistry is even worse, plus there's a lot of math. He might not like you, or he might be terrified of being close to someone, or he might be seeing other people and stringing you along, or he might be terrible at communicating, or whatever. If it's any of these things, or lots of other possibilities, you don't need to make it your problem. You can find something better. Is it possible he's also into men? Absolutely, but I'm not sure how having an orgasm from your merest touch is really evidence of that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loon-A-TiK Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 I've had a few guys orgasm without taking off their clothes or even touching them THERE. Just some unspoken anticipation and BOOM!@!!!! Women too. And ME too!! It is the best thing since sliced bread! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Becca Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 ^Definitely! The more orgasms in this world, the better! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maddy Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 sexuality is strict and set in stone for some and not for others. and there is ALL kinds - asexual, homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, trysexual. that's me - trysexual: try just about anything once! heh, heh, heh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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