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So... my family knows about my problems since the end of 2016, when i pretty much had an emotional meltdown and they saw my cuts, but recently my little brother has been through some rough times (he suffers from depression too) and i think he started doing sh too (based on certain things i found) and i just can't get out of the idea that it's my fault that he got worse.

Be honest, is it my fault that he did this to himself?.

I feel like human garbage :( also english isn't my first language, feel free to correct me on that.

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Zergbug, the only person you can control is you yourself. While it's true that your brother may have gotten the idea to try SH from knowing it helped you, it's also possible that he didn't - self harm is (alarmingly) common among depressed teenagers. Also, and importantly, the only person you have control over is you. You don't have control over your brother and if he is self-harming, ultimately he made the decision to do so. 

So, to be clear, no, it is not your fault at all.

Are you and your brother getting treatment? Do you have a tdoc (therapist) you can talk to about this? Maybe a gdoc (family doctor) or pdoc (psychiatrist)? The number one most important thing right now is to get treatment for yourself. Next steps you could take would be to offer to your brother to help him get treatment (see a doctor and find a therapist who is different from your therapist). But look after yourself first. Just like they say in the emergency instructions on an airplane: put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. 

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Sorry to hear your little brother is self harming. It isn't your fault. All you can do is be supportive, I guess. Maybe encourage him to get help if he hasn't.

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People get introduced to sh in a lot of ways, but in the end, they start doing it because they're suffering. If you hadn't sh'ed, he would have found some other way to hurt himself, probably. It isn't your fault.

maybe you can talk to him about this? How sh makes you feel, how scared you are that he's started. It may help you both 

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Thanks to everyone for their kind words, especially @Geek, you all make me feel like i don't suck at this "role model" thing, and i really appreciate that.

We're seeing different therapists sinse january and we feel at least a little better, i think.

There are still other issues under this that torment me at night though, i hope i can bring those up soon.

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