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I've cleared all pro and con arguments cleared regarding my move.

Why? I'm moving down 'Souf to Augusta in a little over a week.  ;)

Well, as other pros I haven't mentioned yet... spicy cajun fried chicken and honest-to-God sugar-sweetened (not that evil high fructose corn syrup swill!) sweet tea... (and as Loon-A-TiK pointed out, the girls  :) )

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A strange person once gave me advice that I've found very helpful when making a decision.  She told me to live for a day or two believing I've made my decision for "Choice A" and see how it resonates.  Then, spend the next day or two believing I've made "Choice B" and so on.  Sometimes I know within a few hours what my actual decision will be, and sometimes it does take a week or so.  You mentioned you have until the 28th.  That gives you some time to imagine your different futures and resonate with them. 

While trying to decide, consider your long-term goals and how each scenario will move you towards or away from your goals. 

You mentioned in another thread that you want a job specifically with the perks that this one has.  That will be good for you mentally, at least for a while, because you will have achieved something you feel you deserve.  Atlanta is only a couple hours away if you need to get away to a big city.  Also, a quick search at Expedia showed roundtrip plane tickets for under $400 from Augusta to Boston.  Perhaps you could afford a weekend vacation every 6 weeks or whatever.

Do be prepared to experience some depression if you move, even if it is what you want.  I always feel a bit depressed/upset when I move.  There is a lot of stress in the packing (like you said), a lot of excitement in the unpacking, and the unfamiliarness of the new place makes my anxiety skyrocket, even while my sense of adventure is being fulfilled. 

I think it sounds kinda exciting, personally.  If you do it, find a place with an air-conditioner ;)

Good luck either way!

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herrfous:

Boy that's a tough one. I really can't give you any better advice than punksailor's, which is excellent.

Remember, too, that a good antidepressant for me is meeting up with peers of mine who have similar tendencies to blabber about nerdy subjects in a vaguely Aspie manner - mostly graduates of my alma mater ;-), who are extremely well-respresented in the Balt/DC area.  The nearest fellow grad to me in Augusta would be in Durham.  I'm afraid that I'm going to fall into the big D again - this is f'in scary - first time in my entire life I might be without any peer friends around.
This isn't really quite the same (you're not a kid just getting out of college, for one), but you may want to check out this thread: Where the hell do you meet people?, for a person with no friends.... Get past my initial shitty answers (no, seriously) and there's some good advice that applies in any situation. There's another link I put in there: Moving On, I need help. Again, with someone in college, with a bit of different info given in the replies. I know these are different circumstance for you, but I do think the process of meeting new people and making friends is universal.

I wish I could make your decision for you, but...alas. I think punksailor's suggestions for going through the decision making process all are great.

And if all else fails, you might want to try what I call the "Magic Peso" trick. Obviously doesn't need to be a peso, any coin will do -- just used a peso when I first learned it. You do the usual "Head, this..." "Tails, that" routine, then throw it in the air. Doesn't matter which side it lands on. What does matter is this: think about when it was in the air and what side your were you rooting for. Was it "Heads, heads!" or was it "Tails, please be tails!"

In some cases this works. In others not. I'd stick with punksailor's suggetions!

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There are approximately 400 individuals my age in the entire area.There is virtually no undergraduate institution presence in the area.

Not entirely true. Within about a five mile radius of MCG there is Augusta State University and Paine College. ASU offers undergrad, graduate, and specialists degrees. Not far over the border is Aiken, SC and the Univ of SC at Aiken. I'm don't know you age but I doubt the statistic of only 400 individuals in the Augusta metro area are in your age group.

People have mentioned Atlanta, but Athens, GA -- UGA main campus -- is closer to Augusta than Atlanta. Athens is a good town for young, and older folks, and there is alot to do there, unlike Augusta. The cost of living in Augusta is low, hosuing is cheap.

And my last rant.  Oh, the heat!! Augusta spends 6 months with their average highs above 80.

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Yes, the weather in Augutsa sucks but the weather everywhere in Georgia sucks.

One last point, you do not want to try to find inexpensive flights from anywhere to Augusta. Flying directly to Augusta is expensive and very few airlines service the airport. You would be much better off flying into or out of Columbia, SC which is only about an hour drive. Or fly into Atlanta but then you have at least a 2-2.5 hour drive to Augusta and the traffic in Atlanta SUCKS.

*edited again for typos but I'm sure my posts still contains typos

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You got some really excellent help with the above posts.

Remember there are the beautiful mountains near the border of GA. and North Carolina, they will cool you off.

And I too hate the heat but I learned to do what I use to do up north....just in reverse...stay out of the noon day sun, as much as you can. Most everything is air conditioned in the south, just make sure your car has a good air conditioner.  Your hair will get curly, and your skin will shine with the humidity (you might not care about that one, but for me, I love the way the humidity makes my skin feel soft.) ah...what else. Well as was already said, be prepared...any change can be difficult, but also can be exciting. And southern women are beautiful (I'm originally from CT., so I don't count myself in the southern category, in case you thought I was being a bit egotistical. ;)

Good luck with your decision.

Sylvia

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You've gotten a lot of great advice.  My brother and his family live in Augusta, and my parents live in Aiken.  I myself lived in Augusta for about 3 years in the mid-80s.  It was vastly different then.  Now, if you can't stand sitting in traffic, in your car, think long and hard about living there.  The place is one big untrammeled growth rocket, with no zoning plan, and the traffic is horrendous.  The folks moved to Aiken to escape the gridlock, although my mother still makes the trip over the river to work at MCG, where she has worked for many, many years in Histology.

I've lived in the South most of my life.  Yes.  Summer is hot and sticky, and the temperatures are in the 90s.  But frankly, most of the population goes from their air-conditioned house to their air-conditioned car to their air-conditioned job, and then repeats that exodus at the end of the day.  It's a way of life.  Unless you are one of those outside people who has a need to be doing outside stuff during the summer, you probably will do just fine.  I'll be the first person to admit, I am an indoor girl during our long hot summers here in Florida.  I have no interest in courting disaster by getting overheated (NMS anyone?).

Another great place to check out, within decent driving distance of Augusta is Savannah.  Great restaurants, decent nightlife, and cool art scene.  Getting there is interesting (actually getting to I-95 is interesting) as there is nothing but the "back way", but you'd get used to it, LOL.

Good luck in your decision.

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What a wonderful opportunity to have fall in your lap.  My thoughts:

- I don't know where you get the numbers that there are only 400 people in your year group in the area.    I assure you that Augustans are not fleeing the state in droves, they are managing to reproduce, and it is possible for you to find someone to socialize with.

Searching the US census data I find for Augusta/Richmond County:

16 - 24 yoa:  32,750  which equals 4,093.75 people per year group

25 - 44 yoa:  59,686  which equals 3,141.37 people per year group

Both age classes equal or exceed the GA, and USA percentages.

- Having a chat or a beer with college chums is always great, but probably not a very good reason to base your career and life on. Even if you never moved again, I guarantee that most of your friends would slow drift away for school, new jobs, promotions, marriages... College days pass away, and we proceed on with our lives.

- You mention the benefit you get from socializing, but I dare say that long term having a stable situation with a job, health care will do more for you than occasional chats and days filled with worry about supporting yourself.

- The job itself sounds like something tailor made for you. You would be the big fish in the pond, developing a new program.  You already know the boss, and even if this is a mercy job.... It is a job with benefits. 

- Don't let the packing and moving stuff (which I hate as well) keep you from grabbing an opportunity. If it comes down to it, take only your most basic things, stuff them in trash bags rather than deal with boxes etc. Sell, give away or leave everything else.  You can get second hand stuff when you get to Augusta.  Those blow up mattresses sleep great.  ;)

- When dealing with the Southern heat and humidity there are two important things to remember:  dress in light comfortable clothes, and when afoot, one does not walk in the Northern hurried sense, but rather stroll or saunter. Also heavy window tinting is legal down South and makes a big difference in the car.

- Few people live out the orderly and perfect lives that they envision when first starting out. Seldom do we get the perfect situation, or exactly what we want.  Live presents us with forks in the road and we must choose one, often from necessity. You make the best of the situations that are presented.

This job sounds like the opportunity to get you back in gear, keep you from becoming dependent on relatives, work for a known and kindly boss, stay in your field, and if nothing else give you time to sort out the MI issues.

Good luck, whatever your choice!

A.M.

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Hey, we all have to make choices that are hard. At least you have the back-up of some family ties here (and Indian people love that) and no more S.V. to work for! How's that going, BTW?

Augusta has good and bad to offer. I was there in the late '80s and back then it was a bit back-woods, but legend has it that like most of Georgia, it has grown a lot.

Yes, I love the Plan A, Plan B, Plan C... stuff you got from another post. That is exactly what I do. Hey, if it doesn't work out, then there are always alternatives!

And what is life without jumping in? Sometimes you have to trust the higher powers to guide you into something better for you. Sometimes it seems like it sucks, but it could get you more contacts, give  you more work exp, or something great like that.

CAUTION- do NOT change jobs more than once a year, unless you  MUST. That is because you will ha ve a VERY hard time describing to recruiters why you love to leave jobs so much. Usually companies spend about 10k on every new employee to train and all that, so make yourself look worth it.

I'd say go where opportunity calls. Maybe there are hot girls in the hot climate! There is always the chance they will wear skimpy clothes! LOL

---loon---

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Augusta has good and bad to offer. I was there in the late '80s and back then it was a bit back-woods, but legend has it that like most of Georgia, it has grown a lot.

You were in Augusta when I lived there!  And in NE-OH at the same time from 2000-2004.  eeeeeeeeeeeeee.

CAUTION- do NOT change jobs more than once a year, unless you  MUST. That is because you will ha ve a VERY hard time describing to recruiters why you love to leave jobs so much. Usually companies spend about 10k on every new employee to train and all that, so make yourself look worth it.
And another plus for the job - I'll be working until August 2007 (Planning to get the Master's degree after that)

I'd say go where opportunity calls. Maybe there are hot girls in the hot climate! There is always the chance they will wear skimpy clothes! LOL

Doesn't matter if they're even wearing skimpy clothes.  On my last trip there about a month ago, in the 60F conditions Augustans called "winter", I spotted more than one's fair share of well, extremely hot girls around.  Even my mother told me to stop drooling once.  It was embarrassing. ;)

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What a wonderful opportunity to have fall in your lap.  My thoughts:

- I don't know where you get the numbers that there are only 400 people in your year group in the area.    I assure you that Augustans are not fleeing the state in droves, they are managing to reproduce, and it is possible for you to find someone to socialize with.

Searching the US census data I find for Augusta/Richmond County:

16 - 24 yoa:  32,750  which equals 4,093.75 people per year group

25 - 44 yoa:  59,686  which equals 3,141.37 people per year group

Both age classes equal or exceed the GA, and USA percentages.

- Having a chat or a beer with college chums is always great, but probably not a very good reason to base your career and life on. Even if you never moved again, I guarantee that most of your friends would slow drift away for school, new jobs, promotions, marriages... College days pass away, and we proceed on with our lives.

- You mention the benefit you get from socializing, but I dare say that long term having a stable situation with a job, health care will do more for you than occasional chats and days filled with worry about supporting yourself.

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You had EXTREMELY valid points there.  However, the Metro Augusta CofC carries age brackets differently (5-19/children of families, 20-24/young singles, 25-45/young singles/mostly families).  In Richmond county (Augusta itself), the 20-24 age bracket constitutes 8.4% of the population.  It's surrounded by brackets that are near or above 30% each.  It's the second emptiest bracket, behind 65+ (actually I'm quite surprised at that, given that the city has the highest # of golf holes per capita, owing to the Masters' phenomenon).

That doesn't mean it's the end of the world, though. =)

(P.S... I've copied this to a PM in case you haven't subscribed)

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Plus, hey...extend yourself! After all, 20-24 is only an age bracket. Sure, you probably feel more comfortable in it, have more in common with folks the same age. But it is just a number. Always plenty of people both younger and older who could have the same interests, or just be cool and interesting people.

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Plus, hey...extend yourself! After all, 20-24 is only an age bracket. Sure, you probably feel more comfortable in it, have more in common with folks the same age. But it is just a number. Always plenty of people both younger and older who could have the same interests, or just be cool and interesting people.

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Again, very good point, CB-Mom ;-).  It's not here in my reply to the topic, but I did PM AirMarshall with the fact that I'm VERY good at socializing, MORESO outside my age group!!!!!!!!!  (Persnaps an Aspie/Autism thing.)  In fact, having conversed extensively with my 50-something empty nester neighbors (mainly due to the fact that the husband helped me get my car out of a mucky quagmire!  Caused by a legendary snowstorm of 18 inches!  Of snow, y'all perverts).  They'd even invited me to dinner (for which I'd prepared an appetizer, Vichysoisse a la Toscan, which is fancy snotty French for 'cream of potato and leek soup with sausage and greens'; easy to make - recipe available upon request).  It was a pretty cool occasion, and we all had great conversation despite neither husband nor wife being anywhere near my age!

HONESTLY, my biggest concern is the dating scene; with a lack of people my age, I'd rather not go without a serious, LTR girlfriend for another 2+ years (I've already spent about 5 years in that condition, and in what my parents, in their culture, consider 'marriage age' 20-30 for guys, this puts a hell of a lot of pressure on me... they're trying to convince me that a semi-arranged marriage, a la suitorship, is good for me, but I've told them that I won't consent to marriage until I've known the girl for at least 2 years - and that if she's an ethic Indian, that she too, is a 'coconut', just like myself ;-) ).

hehehehe... maybe I can date an older chick (25+), or a younger one (18-19).  It doesn't hurt that the average age of a girl attracted to me, is oh, 15-16. :-X

Oy Vey, as you've heard in the Jewish community, Revlow.

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