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My husband and I have been married for many years.  Over the years, he has gotten upset at me for various reasons, many justified and others....our level of arguing increased about 8 years ago.  I do not do well with conflict.  I grew up on a family where you said sorry and moved on.  I avoid conflict and lie at times to avoid it.  Many times, He will recognize my anxiety and call me out.  Instead of stating the tough facts and bringing uneasy feelings and thoughts to light, I will provide half truths hoping he will let it go.  Pretty much, anytime this happens, he know it and is upset with me.  I finally come clean with it all.  Many times, my husband has shut down and not talked to me for days and I didn’t know exactly what was wrong.   I have become so afraid to bring up anything that I see could cause a disagreement or him to think something horrible of me. So, I lie to myself and hope it blows over and I don’t have to tell him my deepest feelings.  Am I crazy?  Oh, and I am terrified he will leave me as he has threatened so many times over the years.  I fear he will say he has had enough of my anxiety and lies....I don’t know what to do.

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A third vote for therapy....

Couples counseling would be great, but if you can't get him to go, at least try going yourself....A therapist could help a great deal in assisting you to work out these problems.

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