paintedsky Posted December 1, 2017 Share Posted December 1, 2017 Maybe it's the mood disorder talking, my friend is using up my patience and today I'm kinda pissed. He expects me to drive to him to hang out constantly. He can't visit me because he doesn't have a car. He doesn't offer me gas money and it's a half hours drive. And I feel like I'm always picking up this or that on my way. I feel used. But he acts like he really wants to see me in particular, which maybe is true. I'm trying to be a good friend but I don't feel like it today. All we ever do is just talk about him all day. He sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paintedsky Posted December 3, 2017 Author Share Posted December 3, 2017 (edited) Now I feel awful I wrote all that. I don't know what made me so mad. At least I didn't say it to him. Edited December 3, 2017 by paintedsky Clarify Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snurli Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 I love my husband and we have been together happily for a long time. However, there are times when I think that he is the most selfish being on the planet and it's all I can do to keep from choking him as he complains about having to mail the christmas packages--after I made the gifts, cards, boxed and wrapped them, got the shipping boxes, addressed and packed them. Then I remember that he shoveled the snow, dusted, vacuumed, changed the cat box, and did the laundry as well as 4 years of marriage counseling--we were both doing heavy lifting in our relationship. Then there was a step sibling who grated on my last nerve like your friend did--very self-centered, entitled, financial and energy drain, etc. and there was no reciprocity in the relationship. So, I don't deal with her anymore. This doesn't mean that there has to be a tit-for-tat accounting of every relationship but you need to get something positive out of your relationships. Guess what I'm saying is that I understand being frustrated with the people in my life. Livid, even. In some cases, as with husband, I needed to calm the fuck down and reflect on how we help each other. But as with step-sib, who needs vampires? So it's good that you gave yourself some room to reflect on your thoughts and didn't pick a battle right away. But I hope you no longer feel awful. Sometimes we think horrible things for all the right reasons. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paintedsky Posted December 6, 2017 Author Share Posted December 6, 2017 (edited) Thanks for responding with some wisdom. he's not a complete taker, you make a good distinction. Edited December 6, 2017 by paintedsky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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