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Secrets

I understand how you feel. There are times thats all I want to be- alone and safe- and then I feel  just like you do. Its part of the human condition, to hook up on some level, to make contact. Thanks for expressing your feelings, I felt like that for the last several days. No platitudes, just a hook-up.

Sylvia

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I've often thought about this question...ever notice how when one spouse dies (in an elderly couple that's been together for a long time), the other spouse usually follows in a rather quick turn for the worse, heathwise and doesn't last much longer??  After my grandfather died from lung cancer, my whole family noticed my grandmother slipping into depression and she has really deteriorated mentally speaking (calling me by my cousins names, not recognizing me on the phone, etc.) over the past year from quite a sharp, and extremely intelligent lady.  I feel really bad for her, it's obvious she is lost without my Opa. 

Often myself I feel like I could die from lonlieness because I just can't imagine living without my SO.  I'd just be an empty shell of a person....  Being moderately BPD amplifies this feeling by a million times too... ;)

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((hugs))

night time can be lonely....some of my deepest aloneness has been at night.....still would be if I wasn't knocked out by remeron...

I feel the same.....which is one of the reasons why I've not sought put a relationship....scared I'll scare the other away....

the struggle can be that we are rightfully needy, need to have needs for love and acceptance met, but how to get them met healthily and and safely....which is one of the reasons for me why therapy is so valuable...it is repairing some of the holes in my emotional heart....

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Hi Secrets,

    I know just how you feel.  I live alone in a studio apartment, and most of the time I don't have anyone to talk to.  I guess the question would be, would you be happy if you had a non-stop social life?  I know that part of the reason I spend a lot of time alone is because I am an introverted person.  I wouldn't choose to go out very often even if I did have an active social life, but it does get lonely too much of the time.  Do you have anyone you can talk to on the phone, a friend, a family member, anyone?  I find that this helps a lot.  Anyway, hang in there.  Don't let anyone tell you there's something wrong with you just because you feel alone.

I am bymelf so much of the time, except for the background noise of tv, its eerie at times. Especially late at night it seems like I am on this planet alone with just my tv. Oh well just a thought.

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Hi Frosty here...I have a pretty bad relatonship with my husband and with 3 nice kids but all have MI.s  KINDA TOO MUCH FOR ME.

I was alone before but had 2 friends,  now  - none. I won't leave  because I know I will never make it . I will be all alone. I think I would rather be tormented constantly than be alone...

I am so sad inside but I hide.. I would rather die now..

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yeah if I finally meet someone, I will be so needy with all the lack of attention and social experience.

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Yeah, that's me too.

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how do you know you will not meet some one who cares and needs to give love and attention to feel alive,,, Look around you

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Hi Secrets,

Do you have anyone you can talk to on the phone, a friend, a family member, anyone?

I am bymelf so much of the time, except for the background noise of tv, its eerie at times. Especially late at night it seems like I am on this planet alone with just my tv. Oh well just a thought.

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Noope, thats why I am lonely at times ;)

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Perhaps a pet would be comforting.  Dogs and cats are great companions.  If you need something smaller/lower maintenance, rats are also very loving critters.  If you get a rat only get one and it will bond with you.  It will cuddle and eat out of your hand.  I like them all.  I have two dogs and am amazed at how centered and gentle I feel inside after petting and brushing them.  My neighbor has raised rats all her life.  Her rats are very sweet. 

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Hi Secrets,

Do you have anyone you can talk to on the phone, a friend, a family member, anyone?

I am bymelf so much of the time, except for the background noise of tv, its eerie at times. Especially late at night it seems like I am on this planet alone with just my tv. Oh well just a thought.

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Noope, thats why I am lonely at times ;)

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hi secrets. you're probably not looking for ideas but i think a lot of people including me can identify with what you're going through with your loneliness. i live with my boyfriend so i know i am blessed in that regard and i do not take him for granted. however it hasn't always been this way for me. and sometimes even with him here i still feel extremely isolated because of things i fear i just can't be too open with him about. i have no family to turn to, or friends, and that hurts. and it's always been this way. but i have two cats and they are super comforting. do you have any animals secrets? also this board helps me so much with my loneliness. and when my concentration level is working okay, i like to escape into a good book.

i know what you mean about the buzzing of the tv in the background and it get's to me, too.

a while back my boyfriend left me. we had been living hours from where we are now, a place he had wanted to live where i didn't know a soul but i went with him to please him among other reasons i won't get into right now. but anyway, i was in a bad place in therapy, real bad place and he couldn't handle it so he left me there in that strange place all alone to deal with all the rawness and suicidal depression and ptsd flashbacks that only continued to get worse. i've always known what it feels like to be alone with regards to people, but to have a strange city with a language barrier on top of that really did me in.

anyway, this is not about me. i was just trying to share because i don't want you to feel alone even if you are physically living alone and feeling isolated from people. what i do now is i come here and connect with others in the same boat and i think it was saturnine who said it's so wonderful to be here where people just GET it, and i wholeheartedly agree. i wish i had known about this place back then.

i hope you'll keep posting! sorry if i have been annoying or overbearing in any way. sometimes i just don't know what might be helpful but i feel compelled to try.

good thoughts

aurelie

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How did you tel your boyfriend you have mental illness during the relationship or did you tell him upfront? Why did he leave like that? Also how do you live with someone for extended period of time, what skills does it take. I fear being attached to someone who has friends for fear of feeling inferior and them finding out I am friendless.

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I fear being attached to someone who has friends for fear of feeling inferior and them finding out I am friendless.

That's exactly how I feel.  If someone is popular at my college, I avoid them, even if I'd really like to talk to them.  I feel ashamed that I have no friends, and I feel like I wouldn't fit in with anyone who has friends because they're so different from me.  Being lonely hurts.

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I told my girlfriend, now wife, up front that I was MI, but then it was "just depression" and now it is Bipolar Disorder; she is unhappy and feels like I concealed it from her even though I wasn't diagnosed BPD until over a year after we married.  In her words, "It was more than I bargained for."

Tommy ;)

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I told my girlfriend, now wife, up front that I was MI, but then it was "just depression" and now it is Bipolar Disorder; she is unhappy and feels like I concealed it from her even though I wasn't diagnosed BPD until over a year after we married.
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