Ion Posted January 19, 2018 Share Posted January 19, 2018 It's my fault. I told them they could stay here, but it's still overwhelming. I offered to rent a room to a friend who couldn't find a place and then their significant other moved in, too. Another friend had a financial crisis and needed a place to crash, which turned into more than 2 months living here. That friend will move out soon, but I'll still have 2 other people here. It was important to me to help these friends. I think I did the right thing, but it's taking a huge toll, and I'm feeling resentful. I think that I'm going to ask the renter to apartment hunt this summer. I don't think sooner is fair. It's a slog. Having other people in my living space is really, really hard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintalto Posted January 19, 2018 Share Posted January 19, 2018 I couldn’t do that, I admire that you were able. It’s okay to be a little resentful at this point, your kindness is being stretched very thin at this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rabbit37 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 I have trouble with my teens having friends over for an afternoon, shit, can’t imagine extraneous people living here. You have every right to tell them to find another space. Sooner rather than later. Your mental health is more important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ion Posted January 20, 2018 Author Share Posted January 20, 2018 I'm learning that I'm not really able to do this. I expected it to be hard, but I still underestimated it. I can be too nice for my own good, and I need to be more careful about what I take on in the future. Extraneous person #3 will move out by the end of the month. I'm so excited Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ion Posted January 22, 2018 Author Share Posted January 22, 2018 The SO officially lives somewhere else, but that place mostly just stores some of their stuff. They put in a fair bit of effort at being a good house guest, which I appreciate. #3 sleeps all day, expects to be driven places and usually makes announcements in situations where they should be making requests. Once that friend moves out I think the next few months will easier. 10 more days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ion Posted January 22, 2018 Author Share Posted January 22, 2018 This has definitely cured me of thinking that the house is too big for just my spouse and me. It's an average size place, but a whole house for two people felt like a lot when we first moved in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ion Posted January 29, 2018 Author Share Posted January 29, 2018 #3 has moved! More personal space and privacy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rabbit37 Posted January 29, 2018 Share Posted January 29, 2018 Whew, what a relief for you, ion. Great news! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted February 3, 2018 Share Posted February 3, 2018 Ion, I don't really know if this is true in every state, but I am pretty sure it is: Even if they aren't paying you to live there, they are technically tenants. That is going to affect the way you ask them to leave. If they resist, it is going to be hard to get them out. Is there someway you could get it in writing that if you want them to go, you have to give them 30 days notice, but then they have to leave? There are more polite ways of putting it. I'd look up a landlord/tenant book, or maybe someplace like Nolo Press has something you could use. You are a really good person, but that means it's easier to take advantage of you. Oops, Nolo Contendere Press, at Nolo.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ion Posted March 15, 2018 Author Share Posted March 15, 2018 I took my time about it, but this week I'll be telling the other 2 roommates that we want to end the rental over the summer. I'm sort of nervous, but I'm glad I'm taking action that will lead to us having the house to ourselves again. That's going to be really great Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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