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Driving makes me so anxious I can't deal with it. I have panic attacks and some times I disassociate. I've decided that I can't do it anymore right now. My therapist says I shouldn't quit and I need to power through it or the anxiety will win, but it's just too much. Besides, I don't think it's safe to drive when I start disassociating or panicking and not paying attention to the road. There's not always a safe place to pull over if I start freaking out. Maybe I'm exaggerating the safety concerns because I don't want to do it though. I don't know.

I know it will be a hardship for my family. My spouse and kids don't drive, so we will be reliant on the in-laws for rides, which makes me feel guilty, but I think it's for the best for me right now.

Thoughts?

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i've been really hesitant about taking up driving ever since i began having panic attacks and i do feel this way too. i've been learning for two weeks and i'm always either in a trance or i'm way too anxious to concentrate. just the mere fact that the lives of other people are in my very hands (and feet) freaks me out. it also recently came to my attention that if i pass my driving test, i'd be driving my family and friends around, not just one instructor by my side or by myself. i really do feel your dilemma but i think that despite the guilt or fear of being a burden to your in-laws, you and your family's safety is of utmost importance. perhaps keep driving on the side (by yourself) to tackle the feelings of anxiousness? if you're feeling way too unstable, don't do it. i'm sure you'll be able to drive one day, but take baby steps towards it. pressurising yourself to drive your family around may make you feel more anxious. also, i guess it isn't much of exaggerating because you love your family and want them to be safe. don't undermine the way you feel:)

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Byron-Black, have you ever tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)? That sounds exactly like the sort of thing CBT might help. It doesn't tell you to power through, it shows you how to address your anxieties. I took it for just anxiety, but there were a couple of people having trouble driving.

Sadly, I am a little timid about driving at this point. I can't drive at night at all, but that's because of an eye condition.

Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but I would ask about enrolling in a CBT class.

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11 hours ago, purejoy said:

i've been really hesitant about taking up driving ever since i began having panic attacks and i do feel this way too. i've been learning for two weeks and i'm always either in a trance or i'm way too anxious to concentrate. just the mere fact that the lives of other people are in my very hands (and feet) freaks me out. it also recently came to my attention that if i pass my driving test, i'd be driving my family and friends around, not just one instructor by my side or by myself. i really do feel your dilemma but i think that despite the guilt or fear of being a burden to your in-laws, you and your family's safety is of utmost importance. perhaps keep driving on the side (by yourself) to tackle the feelings of anxiousness? if you're feeling way too unstable, don't do it. i'm sure you'll be able to drive one day, but take baby steps towards it. pressurising yourself to drive your family around may make you feel more anxious. also, i guess it isn't much of exaggerating because you love your family and want them to be safe. don't undermine the way you feel:)

Thanks. I think you are right. I need to trust myself to know what's right for me. I also make myself more anxious by feeling pressured to drive everyone around all of the time. I talked to the in-laws, and my father-in-law said that he doesn't mind driving us around. He said he actually likes that it gives him something to do because he has been bored and mildly depressed since he retired.

10 hours ago, crtclms said:

Byron-Black, have you ever tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)? That sounds exactly like the sort of thing CBT might help. It doesn't tell you to power through, it shows you how to address your anxieties. I took it for just anxiety, but there were a couple of people having trouble driving.

Sadly, I am a little timid about driving at this point. I can't drive at night at all, but that's because of an eye condition.

Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but I would ask about enrolling in a CBT class.

Thanks for the advice. I have not done CBT, only DBT. DBT helped me deal with my anxiety about some things, but I haven't made a dent in the driving anxiety. I am about to do a DBT IOP, so maybe that will help. After the IOP, I will look into CBT. Finding any kind of group therapy that takes my insurance is next to impossible. (I am on Medicaid). Maybe I can just do a workbook with my current therapist.

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A lot of people do exactly that (do the workbook by themselves), and I hear that it works for a lot of people.

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I used to love driving. Feeling on control.... Until I stopped feeling in control. Now I hate driving, and have a phobia of the freeway. I don't know what to do but wanted to say I hear ya and feel ya. Hope you can figure out a good way out of this... GL

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2 hours ago, Alien Navel Cord said:

I used to love driving. Feeling on control.... Until I stopped feeling in control. Now I hate driving, and have a phobia of the freeway. I don't know what to do but wanted to say I hear ya and feel ya. Hope you can figure out a good way out of this... GL

Thanks for your support.

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