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Ok let’s get started, so I have a crush on a boy in my year. 

I like him a lot but I can’t find any ways to get close to him. He is normally surrounded by people and I get embarrassed. I also get sad when I haven’t said anything to them at least once a day. Even a small ‘hi’ helps.

The only time they are alone is when they are walking home. I could walk home and walk with him but there’s these problems:

1) My dad picks us up since he is a stay at home dad. By us I mean me and my brother.

2) The way he walks is different to how I would, so I would have to figure out a way but I’m willing too. 

I’m going to try and walk home with him. I’ll use my phone as a map then once we have walked close enough I can say I’ve accidentally went the wrong way. Since it will be random how I’m suddenly walking with him I’ll make sure to say a reason why.

Thank you and does anyone have any advice? 

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