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Hi all,

I'm currently having real difficulty at work and with a lot of my other relationships.

The issue is that I'm constantly being talked over and really have to fight to be heard at all.

I stutter slightly so that doesn't help me, and no-one seems to give a fuck most of the time.

At work it is particularly bad because my bosses will start to talk over me before I've finished half a sentence. This is an issue because I work as a software developer and communication is key to getting my job done.

The issue is so bad at work that every Sunday before I go to work I get angry thinking about having to deal with any of them. I feel that part of the issue is discrimination, because of my illness (I regret telling folk at work about it). I don't feel that I can move onto another job because I'm becoming unstable because it is leaving me feeling alienated. Other folk in the office seem to be following the example of what the bosses are doing.

I've tried to tell the bosses that they're doing this, but I'm being largely ignored.

Does anyone have any experience on how to deal with this sort of issue?

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What happens if when someone talks over you, you say "Excuse me! I'm talking." After a few times, I think people will get the idea.

Do you talk unusually slow or take a long time to get to the point? I have been known to interrupt when someone takes a long time to get to the point.

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