confused Posted September 28, 2018 Share Posted September 28, 2018 I don't know why I go to this one DBSA group. One of the facilitators upsets me sometimes. He works in the mental health field, but I think he has even less training than I do and I am a peer mentor and don't treat people. He is supposed to be part of the group, but instead he talks like a tdoc. I have been friendly with him, helped him on his job search, asked for support He has told me he thinks I have borderline PD on the basis of self-deprecating thoughts (I was pretty depressed). He has talked about his clients in group, no identifying info but still it is inappropriate. I am sure there is more, but I can't think of them. Anyways, sometimes i leave worse than I came. I used to have a delusion that colors symbolized whether things were okay or not and I would avoid things if there was a certain color. I have heard other people have this with numbers. He said it is because I don't want to make decisions. Like it was a choice. It was hard when all the messages and voices stopped and i had to make decisions, because they would guide me, but it was not a choice. I once told a tdoc some of my secrets about delusions. I thought people were flirting with me, people I know, have met, through different types of media. I said they kept me company and entertained me. She said I made them up because i was lonely. Is there any merit to what they say? It sounds like they think I chose to take an easy way out, when it messed up my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted September 28, 2018 Share Posted September 28, 2018 I wouldn't pay any attention to what these people say. Believe your pdoc because he is the one who diagnosed you. There are some, certainly not all, tdocs who think their way is the only way and they like to second-guess diagnoses because it doesn't fit into their treatment paradigm. My advice is to avoid such people or at least don't give any weight to what they say. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fantod Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 confused, my skin crawled at your description of that DBSA facilitator. he does sound very inappropriate, gossipping, dxing, acting like he has answers for you(!). he's violating a lot of group rules. is there a way to lodge a complaint? i would guess that you are not the only one who feels uncomfortable or harmed by his behaviors there. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused Posted October 2, 2018 Author Share Posted October 2, 2018 I did complain to the president of the local chapter about the gossiping. I did not want to say anything specific in case it somehow gets back to him that it was me. I have not been going recently. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt07 Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Good for you, confused. Standing up to this situation. The group should be therapeutic and not stressful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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